In a pickle

[Arcadia]

Help I'm in a pickle.
I think my relationship may be coming to an end- terrifying to admit to myself let alone tell him.
17 years together.
No abuse, just drifting apart and I want my freedom, and to let him find someone more suited (I'm not bothered about meeting someone myself). .
But also I want to move my child's school as she's really unhappy. DP unlikely that agree to that as I want her to go private and it's against his principles, but with help from my family I can cover the cost (even if we split) and DD who is 12 desperately wants it.
Also terrified if upsetting DD.
What should I tackle first?! How??

Leave then put your child into private school that’s way she can come to terms with the split before also starting a new environment plus DH won’t be there 24/7 to badger you about it being against his principles.

@Blush21 thanks for your response, but he'll need to agree the change if school before we can move her.
Also, she feels unsafe at school and is very unhappy there which is why I want to move her, so I was thinking better to have her more settled first maybe?

Is there another option that solves your DD's problem without going against your DH's principle? As her parents you have an equal right to an opinion about her school, and presumably both want her to be happy ans safe at school, and have the best possible education. Is there a state school that would provide that so everyone's happy?

@layladomino

Is there another option that solves your DD's problem without going against your DH's principle? As her parents you have an equal right to an opinion about her school, and presumably both want her to be happy ans safe at school, and have the best possible education. Is there a state school that would provide that so everyone's happy?

The state schools near us are much of a muchness but I could move to a town (nearer to my work) where she could then access state schools that might be better for her. But then that's a bit of a logistical nightmare!