To forgive cheating partner?

[Alicebee95]

I’ll try to put this in a nutshell!
My partner and I recently broke up last month due to arguing a lot, but a week later we were talking and seeing each other again and fixing things.
2 weeks ago I received a message from a girl telling me I ‘should check my boyfriends messages with her from the 28th January until now’. Him and I split up on the 11th February, and as it turns out, he had initiated a conversation with her on Facebook and they had been sexting for 2 weeks before we broke up. He then had her round to his house twice after we broke up but before we were seeing each other again (which was only about a weeks length of time), and then had her over and slept with her while we were seeing each other and sleeping with each other again. This girl used to work with the two of us and was knowingly sexting him while he was with me. She seemed to have caught feelings for him and was trying to convince him to leave me for her (I’ve read all of their messages) and only spat her dummy out and told me about it when he had told her he was sorting things out with me.
My question is, would you forgive this? Yes, we had been arguing a lot when he decided to message her inappropriately but it’s no excuse. He then continued things with her and she also tried to call it off twice, but he begged her not to. After she messaged me, he blocked her on everything and deleted her number, and told me he wanted to be with me and how sorry he is and how much he hates him self - I do not feel sorry for him.
Like I’ve said I’ve tried to put this in a nutshell so I will answer any other questions! I just feel like I need advice from strangers right now instead of my friends and family.
Thank you x

Shocking how accurate you are! He told me that all he is sorry for is the sexting and messaging her in the first place and that it wasn’t cheating, because apparently ‘cheating only applies to anything physical when you’re in a relationship with someone else’. According to him he has nothing else to be sorry for… and is also trying to guilt trip me for not loving him because I won’t forgive this ‘mistake’

If shit is broken you fix it, or get rid. There is never any excuse for cheating and he's had his cake and eaten it, no way would i ever forgive the shitweasel.

IMO regardless of whether you believe you're cheating or not you don't have sex with someone else within a week of breaking up with someone you're in love with.

What a knob! Don't forgive. Ditch him and move on. So so many red flags..! And also his behaviour was wrong on so many levels!

So when the going gets tough, he instantly starts something with someone else?! Na. It's a no from me.

No I wouldn’t. Find someone caring and trustworthy. Don’t let him guilt trip you.

NO. No way. Do not forgive, do not pass go, do not have him back, ever. Move on because you are living a lie - his lie.

HE'S 'guilt tripping' YOU, because you don't love him enough to put up with HIM cheating ????

Seriously ????

What a 100%, fucking knob !

Show him the bloody DOOR ffs !

You are worth 100 of HIM !

Why would you want to? It’s not like there’s a shortage of cock.

Plus, all the drama and arguing isn’t acceptable either. The only point of a relationship is that it’s meant to enhance your life.

No. ABSOLUTELY not.

Sexting is cheating. It's sexual foreplay, and he cheated repeatedly even after seeing and sleeping with you again.

Yuck! Please get an STI test immediately; counseling to build your self-worth and strengthen your boundaries would be a big help. You deserve better.

Love does NOT conquer all.

He started it with her while you were together, begged her to continue when she wanted to stop, slept with you both at the same time, and has only deleted her number now you've found out. These are the facts, without all the smoke and mirrors about her and her motivations, whether you were on a break, the definition of cheating and who loves who. All you need to consider is whether those facts are OK with you.