Concerns about inlaws

[Bambicaughtinheadlights]

I don't know if I'm being irrational but something about my in-laws is starting to worry me. DH is quite open about telling me stuff about the family he's heard from his mother and sister. But I think there's a pattern to it that he hasn't seen. Basically all the female in-laws have been criticised in some way by my SIL and she sets off my MIL when they're together.
One female in-law is apparently lazy, does no cleaning, has no clue how to raise her baby and never takes baby out for a walk.
Another female in-law is 'woke' and up her own arse and SIL gets annoyed that this woman reacts badly to racist 'jokes'.
Another female in-law is an alcoholic, crazy, does no housework.
Another is referred to as 'skinny bitch' and is annoying, apparently because she is educated and opinionated.
Another is no longer part of the family, but since leaving was apparently a terrible mother who spent all her time putting on make-up and going out.
That only leaves me! I'm thinking ... what are they saying about me and might be damage my marriage?! WWYD?

They’re definitely talking about you
Distance yourself from them all

Personally I'd two things:

1. Stay away from the racist arseholes

1. Tell my husband I don't want to hear any of their shit anymore.

*I'd do two things...

@noirchatsdeux

Personally I'd two things:

1. Stay away from the racist arseholes

1. Tell my husband I don't want to hear any of their shit anymore.

Quite right. If people gossip about one, they are going to gossip about others. Within a family, everyone is entitled to confidentiality. Small things can become inflated when stories are told and spread around. I've heard plenty in my time from my family and that of my husband; I dread to think what was said about us :-).

Generally people don't mean any harm and think such tittle-tattle is 'normal', but it can have repercussions. It also shows they have little else to think and talk about. Do they even go to work, are they involved in anything of importance outside of the family?

Ask your husband not to engage - better still, tell him!