Another cheat

[WTAFreally]

NC for this. I can’t believe this is happening to me. After reading MNs posts for years, I can’t believe I am getting ‘that’ T-shirt now..

My ex DP (dumped recently after a year together after I found him cheating) is expecting a baby. These news hurt more than his actual lying and cheating. My body went into a shock mode. I haven’t slept.

How on earth do I get this out of my system??
I have my own DCs, busy career and busy life - but this just knocked me for six. I loved this guy, he was perfect in so many ways. I feel like I want to be ‘that woman’. I am f* heartbroken

natashaadamo.com/how-to-get-over-someone/

The long and short of it is that you need to reframe him in your mind now. He isn't perfect, he is morally bankrupt. And in a way, he's done you a favour by showing you who his is now, so that you've avoided finding out further down the line.

Realise that you are the bigger person. You wouldn't behave like that, and therefore he is beneath you- simply put, he is not good enough for you. He's gone now (good riddance), and he has created a vacancy for you to meet someone nice, loving and trustworthy.

Take some time to lick your wounds, but reframe the way you think of him. He is tarnished, defective, flawed... and you've dodged a bullet xx

Thank you @sunlovingcriminal. I really needed that advice

Similar happened to me except l have 2 adopted kids. He met someone and she was pregnant within a couple of weeks. God it hurt like hell and brought back all the pain of infertility and years of unsuccessful treatment. Only thing that worked was going no contact and pretending he didn't exist. He wanted to remain friends but no way was l going to go for that. Over it now but it took a long time.