Am I overreacting?

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So, I'm 24 with an 8 month old and my boyfriend is 25.

He's working as a doorman tonight (he's had his first day back at his daytime job today) he got back at 6 and my son woke up from what I thought was his night time sleep but turned out to only be a nap, he woke at 8pm which now means he won't be ready for bed until 10:30 (yawn!)

backstory

Last night I was awake (no exaggeration) all night because we co sleep with our son and he was having an unsettled night, I stayed up to keep putting his dummy back in whenever he needed it and to get stop him turning over and waking his dad up with a smack to the face (lol) I only stayed up because last time (about two months ago) he went in for his last day at his new job and had to be he up at 4am to travel there and again our son was unsettled and he literally got mad at me and told me it was my fault I wasn't picking our son up to get him back to sleep (I was keeping him lay down because i was stroking his face which usually works and if I picked him up it would just make him more awake) so obviously last night I didn't want a repeat of the previous time so I just couldn't sleep I stayed awake making sure baby didn't wake him.

So anyway tonight he has work (fine) from 10:30 until 3am... I had no sleep last night due to the above and he's gone to meet his friend before work at 9:30. When I could have really done with him helping me for that extra hour as I'm just mentally drained after today :(

I obviously didn't ask for help as I don't want to sound controlling in anyway... I'm just annoyed at the fact he didn't think himself to help?

I don't want anyone hating on him on this thread please our relationship is completely up and down at the minute but we're getting through it and we've got through a lot before I can't be without him and he can't be without me, I just needed to vent!

Tiredness makes everything seem a million times worse.

When he is working those shifts ask him to sleep on the sofa?

Also you should be able to talk to him about the situation you are mentioning here if he is that good at working through bumps in your relationship

Does your son ever sleep in his own cot ?
I remember lining up several dummies in the cot for mine, and he would root around for one when one fell out .

@Quitelikeit sorry I went off on one there! What I'm annoyed at is how considerate I was last night and my sons awake right now and I'm super tired so could do with some help and he's left edge earlier than his start time to meet his friend beforehand when he could be here helping 😞😞

@GeneLovesJezebel it's not really his dummy he doesn't settle at all he just likes our bed he will sleep 12+ hours in our bed

Staying awake all night so that baby doesn’t wake DP is not sustainable. Sleep deprivation is horrendous, you’ll need to find a routine where you’re both getting sleep - him because he is trying to hold down two jobs (when will he sleep if he’s doing a day job and night shift tonight?) - and you because you need to function to look after baby.
Him leaving a little early before work shouldn’t be a big issue - but as you’re exhausted, it seems like a big issue.
Talk about how each week pans out and how you both get good block of sleep, what he needs to sustain employment and what you need to stay sane. If you have a second room, definitely consider someone sleeping in it at least some of the time!