For those of you on a LAT relationship

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What does your relationship look like.
How do you navigate time together and apart. Any tips or hints.
We are really struggling as restriction lifting means that we are in unchartered waters and we're trying to navigate our new normal.
Thank you.

It looks great.
We spend every weekend together so usually Fri night / Sat morning at one house and Sat night /Sun morning at the other.

We talk every day and message on and off most of the day to each other.

During the week, we may meet up once for dinner, a movie or go to a concert or even just out for a walk or cycle.

We do weekends away without kids 3 or 4 times a year. We also go 2 holidays abroad, one with kids and one just us.

We are super close and will move in together one day but waiting until our teenagers have finished school and exams in a few years.

Thanks @Jota67 .
Do you live far away from each other?
Do your kids spend time together?

Any one else in this position please

We live 20 mins apart.
Kids spend EOW together with us.

We spend from saturday lunchtime till sunday night together and socialise at the weekend as couples and entertain together at my house as it's bigger e.g dp will say "shall we invite so and so for a barbeque" and we usually see each other once in the week.

We have a couple of weekends and a week away on our own and one or two holidays a year with the children. We attend all family events, such as weddings, christmas, christenings together. We do see our own friends but if it's on a night we usually spend together we would never make that arrangement without discussing it first.

We chat on whatsapp throughout the day and on the phone most days.

Will probably live together when the kids are older but for now blending isn't on the cards.

What is LAT

Living apart together

We live about 40 minutes apart, see each other a couple of nights a week. So this week I went over to his on Saturday evening, stayed over til Sunday, then went for a long walk and both went to our respective homes from there. On Tuesday night he's coming over to mine straight from work, we'll go out, then he'll go to work from here on Wednesday morning. He then has his dd Wednesday afternoon to Saturday morning. Sometimes we'll do stuff other days, it's not rigid, but I don't want to hang around too much when his daughter is with him.
Planning a couple of weekends away, holidays together. Do Christmas together, but then I'll go off to spend time with my adult children.
Been doing this 5 years, it's very nice!

What particular problems are you having?

My partner is waiting to move into his own home as he is waiting for tenants to move out so it could be a few months. He was working away until recently.
It's stressful in that we only have my home to go to and my teenage child is continuously there and going through a massive stage of attitude and transition.
Lots of stress for both of us presently, in our personal lives.

Sounds like my bf's dd, but his ex has her half the time so I can just stay out of her hair. Could your partner maybe find an airbnb for a bit?

Honestly it's crap and I HATE it. Been together nearly 7 years and I'm tired of driving 40-45 mins every time I want to see him. He drove to pick me up before I started driving about 2 years in but he refuses to stay here as I live with my parents. Moving in with him isn't practical either. Just feels like we're constantly going backwards, we rarely go out and we've never been away not even for a weekend or even a night. He's very happy with the situation and he's always going on about how he couldn't cope with living with me anyway, so guess that's the way it's going to stay..