I know this is an old chestnut...

[Lauren850]

..but first time for me. Just seen someone I know well on match.com when he's meant to be in a long term relationship. She's a good friend of mine too, they've been together 8 years or so and live like a married couple. Im so shocked as thought he wasn't the type - whatever the hell that means - also they seem happy with each other. I do know they are both sad about not having kids and in 50s now - his Match profile says 'wants kids'. . My instinct is to say nothing, am I wrong?

I would screen shot it as proof and tell her. I’d expect a good friend of mine to do that.
What she does with it is up to her.

Since there is physical evidence I would screen shot and arrange a meeting with the friend at your place.

I'd want to know if my husband was cheating.

If you don't tell her you aren't much of a friend are you?

Take a screen shot show it her.
"Just seen this not sure how kosher it is but thought you need to know"

I mean if they have been together 8 years and are already in their 50s, kids were a bit of a long shot, just biology and maths.

He might just be having a weird mid life wobble, I mean really who wants to start a family with someone in their 50s...........almost pushing 70 when they leave school..........must be a small pool, unless he is loaded loaded.

My dh and I found out that our friend was on a dating website.
He matched with one of our other friends younger siblings.
We called him out on it. My dh spoke to him and explained how unfair it was on his partner and how stupid he had been. Our friend admitted to being very unhappy and didn’t know what to do.
I felt bad for his partner so we explained he had to speak to her or we’d tell her.
We didn’t want to get involved in their relationship, we knew they were having some issues but she didn’t deserve to be treated like that.
He came clean to his partner and j think it worked better coming from him than us.
I spoke to her afterwards and she wasn’t annoyed that we hadn’t gone straight to her.
She was thankful we backed her.

If she’s a good friend, I’d tell her.

He seems a bit dim though having a dating profile where people can quite clearly see it’s him, considering he’s married!

I’d also talk to her as well, don’t probe her, but their “happy” marriage may not be so happy behind closed doors.

Yes! Frozen I think you are spot on there with the weird midlife wobble - he's actually 59 ffs but she is 51 so I know that both had hopes early on...the sadness is probably more about the past for both of them. I agree the chances of him finding anyone interested in having a child with him are practically zero! Especially as they do everything as a couple and both work from home!

I have messaged you op
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It could be a catfish. Someone who has stolen his photos.

I've seen stolen photos on dating sites many times. Then you message them, and of course, it always turns out to be someone needing money.

You should tell her. I did when my friend’s Aunty’s man that she lived with started hitting me up on a dating site. She got rid of him.

A good friend, and you're considering saying nothing?