Would you think this was odd??

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Been chatting all day every day to a guy via text and phone. We've met up for a weekend and then he was away with work for 2 months (I've seen the training certificate etc and he still chatted). We live about 3 1/2 hrs from each other but plan on meeting up regularly

Now about 2 1/2 months ago he went to his brothers for a week - said before he went he won't be able to text as much, he didn't but still a bit

He text this morning to say he's going to stay with a friend for a couple of days (work said he had to use up AL), and he won't be able to talk. I asked could he text and he said 'I'll try'

I'm naturally cynical, suspicious and rarely trust anyone. Am I right thinking this is weird or if someone is staying with a friend they've not seen for a good while they tend to put their phone away ?

This all sounds super weird, OP.

Why isn't his brother his emergency contact? Why you, a woman he's met once? Did that not strike you as odd?

The messaging and chatting is too much. He is lovebombing you. The emergency contact thing is probably part of that. Trying to rush ahead, get you invested in the relationship and 'in love' without going through the usual getting to know each other stages.

Plus you live a long way apart. It's easy for him to conduct another life, have another girlfriend or whatever. Even if he's not cheating, you don't trust him - rightly. Trust has to be built, slowly and carefully, over time. You haven't had that time. He is expecting trust based on what? Text messages and photographs. It's not enough.

It's all too weird. I would drop him.

You've met him once and live miles away and me about you as his emergency contact. Seriously, even though he has a brother. Not odd at all 😲😲.

It’s all odd and I personally can’t see the point of swapping 25 messages a day with a man I have met once in months. I also don’t believe for a minute that you are his emergency contact at work, I think he has just told you that so that, for whatever reason, you think this is a relationship.

@Aprilx that crossed my mind........though I don't see it as a relationship, but I don't know what I see it as?

It sounds even odder when I'm down as his emergency contact for work too

You are not his emergency contact.

Sorry if I’ve misread but have you only met him once for one weekend?

If he was going to a friends house then fair enough he’s not going to be able to talk as frequently as you do but he can still text every now and then.

He’s married.
End this now before you get even more sucked in.

So have you googled him OP? Looked him up on social media?

Or is his job per chance so secret that he’s not allowed on social media?

My bet is that he’s a con artist of some kind.

Yes I've looked him up

his job isn't secret, I've seen him in his uniform and with his friends in their uniforms too

Do you even know his last name?

I would just call it a day on this one.

Even if he's not married/with someone it's probably going nowhere realistically if he lives 3 1/2 hours away and you've only met for one weekend. The fact he goes non-contact when he's with friends/family (or whatever the hell he's up to) isn't really a good omen is it?

I'd say whatever's going on, he's just not that into you.

Dump!

Is it just me or is there a high proportion of gullible women on MN?
Who would believe all this utter tripe from someone you've spent one weekend with in months?
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So you have met once and you have been chatting for how long?

You said he lives 3 1/2 hours away - assume you met online - was it him that was searching for women distant from home?

As regards the emergency contact , come on .....

He is 100% married or living with a partner

Please don't give this fantasist another minute of your time

Block and delete

OP you are settling for far too little. You've met for a weekend and since then 2 months apart, 3.5 hours distance, he's off seeing friends (why not you since apparently you're dating?). Think this through. Why are you hanging around for the 'promise' of eventually seeing this man? After a singular weekend? If you aren't going to end this at the very least make it clear that you think you should both see other people until the 2 of you have the opportunity/ability to regularly date.