Does having a baby turn all men into selfish gits?

[Islamum]

I am up every night, fair enough during the week, but at the weekend am I unreasonable to expect a little help? 7am this morning I've been up with her since 4.30, shes fed, but fussing, needing her dummy back every 10mins, asleep but not settled, I go to dh I really don't know what to do, he says do you want me to take over? 'If thats ok' dh - actually I do have a lot of driving to do today' We are going to my nans, an hour away, hardly lots - then he goes for my boob, no problem not getting sleep for sex, but dd is too much effort, and he was up late last night because he had to watch match of the day. So I'm knackered, and cross. He'll be all apologetic when he gets up and we talk, but we have had the conversation before. Dd is 8 weeks before I gave up work he was a model hubbie - I think that he is jealous I am at home looking after her. Am I being unreasonable?

You have to be strict with him I think.
tell him straight things need to change.
tel him you will get up with the baby Staurday morning but he will get up with her Sunday morning.
Does he do bed and bathtimes?
I was always strict with dh in that he had to do at least bathtime even when I was breast feeding.
He could also take the baby out for walks at the weekend so you can have an afternoon nap.
My dh sometimes helped in the night even though he was at work. It's just as tiring being at home than being at work, no excuse imo

You are not being unreasonable. My DP takes over every morning at 5am (I do all the night feeds as am BF) and takes DS downstairs. He brings him up if hungry and takes him away again so I can rest. He also takes my DD to school. He is a full time student in Uni and runs own buisness from home so is busy and also tired.

I agree with dooley, you need to spell it out for him and tell him what you want him to do.

are you breastfeeding can I ask?
Does he do his fair share of housework?
At the weekend would he take her to do the food shopping whilst you got some time on your own - mine used to sleep all the way round the supermarketr at that age. Even if you just get to read a magazine for half an hour in the bath you will feel 10 times better

He thinks that taking the baby ou for a couple of hours while i sleep is enough, i've explained that frankly thats easy and I want to be awake enough to leave the house myself on the weekend. You're right, I need to be strict, but why do I always have to be in charge?

I am breastfeeding, but happy for her to get a bottle once a day - he can't get her to take a bottle, she is happy to take it from me or my mum, hes incapable - I can hear him snoring - god I'm cross

I'll be honest - we had a bit of this when ds was born (it felt like 'tit for tat' for adults!) and I remember my sister saying to wait until no2 came as things even out a bit - I didn't believe her but it did even out then as you and dh just naturally took one each. I didn't particularly enjoy having one and almost stopped there - now, a bit down the line we're probably going for no4 so it does get better!!

This is the routine that we are using and its working quite well for us so you could try this or tell me to shove it if it wouldnt work for you
I breastfeed all through the day, starting from the first feed(5amish)but DH gives DD formula for the last feed and I go to bed to be up again early in the morning.
It means we are ships that pass in the night and sex is but a distant memory(we must have done it at one time, I have the proof!) but it works for now.