I hate weekends with husband

[Confused455]

I dread waking up on a Saturday morning. I get up early and start cleaning, or if he lets me have a lie in I lie in bed worried to get up in case he starts having a go at me. Anything can set him off.
I told him today I hate the weekend with him and prefer to be at work. He told me he prefers me to be at work.
We haven’t had sex in a year now. And I don’t feel any urge too. We do have a laugh every now and again, when he’s not in a bad mood.
So yeah, I hate the weekends. Anyone else?

What’s stopping you breaking up?

You have 3 options.

1.Keep going as you are,miserable, walking on eggshells living with an angry,horrible moany prick.

2.If you feel safe, stop worrying about what he wants and says and do whatever the fuck you want when you want. Ignore him,walk out, go out and let him stew. One of you will crack eventually though, and who knows what the outcome is?

3.Leave . Control your life,your weekends ,your wakeup times. Be happy. Hell, just be ok but never having to worry about what he thinks,says or what will set him off...AGAIN.

This isn't a marriage.

OP - this sounds awful. Can you start making an exit plan? There are lots of knowledgeable Mumsnetters who can help if needed.

Divorce the angry fucker

Granted you haven't given us much information, but it's enough to tell this is an abusive relationship.

When you feel constantly anxious that he's gonna have a go at you because anything can set him off... that's emotional abuse, and no one deserves to live like that.

You're a grown woman, who should be able to have a lie in if she wants to, it shouldn't be a matter of if he "lets" you. That shows he's very controlling.

@Confused455

Definitely feel trapped and sucked of any fun or happiness. He doesn’t like the neighbours, he doesn’t like my mother, he doesn’t like anyone. Probably doesn’t like himself. And god no, I don’t want to spend retirement like this.

Have you thought what your life would look like, if you weren't in such a negative relationship? Have you considered how much worse this could all be when you are both retired?

Maybe do some thinking and research about the possibility of no longer being with such an emotional vampire. Eg: check on Rightmove, Zoopla, etc for market prices of houses like yours and for property you could buy alone if you decided to separate & divorce.

Gather All your financials (salary, pensions, bonuses, pensions, cash in bank accounts) for BOTH of you and talk to a family law solicitor about the divorce process and what your rights are. DO NOT let him know you are doing this - this is forward research and for your peace of mind.

Once you have this information you may be in a better frame of mind to decide what YOUR future looks like, without him. Knowledge is power, OP. Good luck. 🌹

I couldn't be in a relationship like that. Surely it's better to be single?