Is this asking too much?

[DragonOverTheMoon]

Been single for 4 months, not planning on dating again yet but I've made a wish list. Can anyone comment if this is expecting too much and never going to happen.

1. Doesn't shout - communicate with talking.
2. enthusiastic, energetic and helpful.
3. Takes initiative with things like gardening ect.
4. Like a walk with a pub at the end of it
5. Cuddly
6. Funny, happy soul, chatty.
7. Wants to be friends with my older teens and do things with them/us like climbing, bike rides, surfing.
8. Kind, can apologise, not brittle ans defensive.
9. Sexy

10. Thoughtful 11. Freedom to be myself and for us to have our own life and interests. 12. Will give things and phases I go through a go - I go veggie for a while, would join in with gardening and planting veggies, would go to the gym with me. 13. Respects me, not pushy, equal, doesn't leave me to pick up his crap - physical or emotional. 14. Really loves me and adores me.

Is that a bit much? I'm struggling after toxic marriage of what's OK and what's not ok and if I'm too much.

I'm really taking on board about wanting it to be like a book. In my head I've imagined how my relationship should be, and I've also done this whilst in relationships and been disappointed in the reality. How do I go about knowing what I want and it not be idyllic scenes in my head?