Do all women need female friends ?

[Sparklysunshine]

Just that really ! It seems I’m enough for my husband but I crave female friendship and actually I think that’s quite normal ! He would take it so personally but honestly I can’t see that just your husband is enough for most women friendship wise ! I have sisters and a mother in law but somehow it doesn’t feel the same as if I had an actual close friend , so is this the norm or is your husband really your best friend and actually that’s enough to be happy with??? Just wondering really , I live a boring normal life so no underlying drama here lol

I think its better for woman to have female friends than not. Reliance solely on a man for support, fun, intellectual stimulation, understanding and companionship, now, and at every life stage for the rest of your days, strikes me as at best rather limiting, and at worst a huge disappointment waiting to happen.

@Nicoise

You have a very unhealthy relationship. It would be one thing if you didn't want any outside friends, but it sounds like you do, which is perfectly normal, most people have friends. The fact your husband doesn't want you to have anyone but him in your life is a huge red flag. He sounds insecure and controlling.

This. Your h sounds awful. My female friends mean everything to me and dh actively encourages me to see them and always takes the time to talk to them etc when they visit. Yes, it's great if your dh is your best friend and mine is but I can't imagine live without my other friends!

No, not ALL women need or want female friends. I think the majority do, one way or another.

But this is really about your DH controlling you, and stopping you doing something / having something you want. He has no right to do that.

He might not want other friends, but that's his choice. You get to make your choice, which is to have friends. Don't let him control you. Don't let him convince you you're being unreasonable. Live your life and don't be a prisoner to his insecurities or need for control.

Tell him - you won't force him to have friends, if he doesn't want them. And he can't force you not to. And having friends is a really healthy and normal thing to do.

Did you have friends before you met your dh? I think friends and partners are completely different things, to be honest. And I couldn't be without my friends, there are as important to me. Some I've known longer than my dh and they feel more like family.

Yes, women need women. I love my female friends. Women live longer than men, so most women end up relying on friendships.

Love my dh but I wouldn't call him my best friend. We have a laugh, can talk for hours and enjoy each other's company but he lacks that female perspective that I so often feel I need on things and that shared experience of motherhood that I have with my friends who are also parents. I definitely treasure my female friendships. My dh isn't overly social but he's more than happy for me to do stuff with friends.

I would choose having good female friends over having a husband/partner every time.

So someone who would want be to choose wouldn't be suitable for me as they would be gone.

Just because he can't make friends/doesn't want friends doesn't mean you can't have any.

Oh blimey you need friends outside your marriage!
Me & my best friend joke about the fact that husbands come & go - it's light hearted - we're in our mid fifties but honestly when we first met in our twenties we were both living with boyfriends but in that time one of us was widowed, one of us divorced, one remarried, one back living with a different 'boyfriend' - we've been there for each other through it all!

I can't ever imagine not having her around! I love my husband & he is a great friend but I couldn't not have my best friend in my life!