I posted earlier about my partner who for all intents and purposes is weirdly entertwined with his sister and her family. A default husband and father if you will.
He has his own children , two of whom are I their twenties and live with him.
His sister is lovely but due to an uninvolved husband, does not seem to be able to cope with their four kids.
Her family, my partner included, have always been involved in helping her to
Rear them.
This is expected and is just the way it is.
It has been said outside the family that she is a snow flake, a Madame and a spoilt brat.
I don't find her to be that but it has been said on a number of occasions by those known to her.
My partner is very good to her as she is to him.
He has however taken on the role of figurative husband and father.
He minds her kids every day, takes them to soft play, swimming, walks as she needs a lie down every day.
Her husband has his own very successful business, employing many with the type of work that means he could leave at any time. He simply won't and isn't involved in the practicalities of family life.
The kids are getting older and need more care and she will literally click her fingers and he's gone. Up to now, it hasn't affected our time too much but it's becoming a little too regular lately.
I understand that there is an element of mutual support but I believe that our limited time together( EOW and one night on alternate weekend) should be ours.We lead busy stressful lives outside eod this time.
She says jump.. he says how high.
Does this need a sit down or do I get rid?
Together three years and live apart 50
Miles away from each other. I can't see it getting any better tbh but I can't see him telling her that he won't be free on x date to entertain her kids. In fact I see it getting more time consuming.
I'm at cross roads on this and would appreciate your input please.