Is it worth joining Match or EHarmony dating sites?

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I've been online dating for a while and not getting much luck with the usual free apps such as tinder and POF, I've been ghosted or the people I have met I haven't had a spark with.
Speaking to a couple of colleagues at work and they met their now husbands off Match and EHarmony.
Is it worth joining? Has anyone else had luck on those sites?

When i was on there about ten years ago I didn't feel that I fared any better. I was around 25 then though, so looking for a man under 30 which might make a difference.

I always thought of the free sites a bit like charity shop shopping, in that there will be lots (and lots) of unsuitable options, but some real gems to be had if you're lucky or prepared to be persistent. The gems probably won't be on there for long, so you need to be systematic and treat it in quite a business like manner.

The paid sites simply will have less choice. The matches are likely to be more serious about a relationship, arguably, but aren't necessarily a better fit for you. I do think this might change with age.

I met my husband on match almost 13 years ago and I have recently helped set a profile up for my brother on match in the hope of him meeting someone. He has had a few conversations started so fingers crossed.

I always preferred the sites that you pay for over free ones as hopefully people there are a bit more committed to finding someone.

Met my DP 7 years ago on Match. My experience was quite pleasant- the men I met didn’t appear to be there just for a shag, though I’d set my filters tight and aimed high - not in a grabby way - but I wanted someone with a job and an education, and who could string a sentence together, and wasn’t after a woman to pick up his socks for him. It worked 😁

I met my dp on match a few years ago. We had both tried the free sites - bumble etc but for me there were endless ‘dick pic’ types and other undesirables. Signed up to match and he was the only one I went on a date with. Tada

EHarmony success here. But it was a year of dross and one shining star. Be patient, and keep yourself socialising off the apps. Something will work, it's just a case of which one works first, really. Have as many channels open as you can at once.

I met DP just over 10 years ago on eHarmony. We now have an 8 yo DD and are a settled and happy family. We were late 30s and I had used other sites but never found them to have suitable matches.

People say it’s a numbers game- maybe it is but I thought OLD was brutal.