How to support someone in an abusive relationship

[OldSpeclkledHen]

My friend is with a total fucking loser, they are married and have kids together

I've just seen a list of text messages he has sent her, no one should be spoken to like that

I'm not great socially/good at supporting people - but I can't stand back and watch this...

How can I help her? She won't leave him. But I don't know what to do or say 😳

I'm with you Old I have a friend in the same situation. It's horrific. In the end I've had to dial-down my interractions with her because it's so upsetting. They'll leave when they want to & not before. All I feel I can do is be here for her if she ever wants support. What makes me even more is that my friend is a therapist, counselling everyone else on their marriages. Yet she's screamed at often, has things thrown at her & is often assaulted in bed.

@Ozmi thank you - I work directly with her so can't dial back on interactions 😳😳

It's proper proper shit - I feel so helpless and don't know what to say - and it's not even about me 😳😳

I'd like to take her phone and reply to him - he wouldn't talk like that to anyone else 😡

If she won't leave what can you do?

Anything you do do, will be taken out on her later.

Maybe direct her to the relationships board on here? It's only through years of reading on here that I came to accept how wrong my marriage was, and gave me the confidence to leave.

@Cloverforever am very happy that you saw the light and left

I can't even imagine what you go through 😶😶😶

The relationship board is probably more appropriate for this thread - how can I get it moved? (Am on my phone typing this 😳)

Hi, OP. We've moved your thread to Relationships now.

Thank you. Life is certainly too short to be treated like your colleague is.

I think if you click the Report button you can ask for your post to be moved. Bear in mind your friend might then read your post and learn your username, which you may not want if you want to stay anonymous.