Partner of 2 years cheating but won’t admit it

[KentDadOfOne]

So I’ve been with my partner for over 2 years now and we have an amazing 8 month old boy together. We’ve both been caught out chatting to people and speaking for myself it’s completely stopped but I know she is carrying on. She has created another Facebook profile but I can’t find it as when I questioned her on it she said prove it and I simply can’t as I can’t find it. I know she is accessing another account as our phones are linked and I can see when she signs out of her actual Facebook account. I need help, what do I do? I do love her I just want her to admit to it. Failing that I want to see what she’s been up to! I’m not over possessive as we have had an extra person in the bedroom (only once) but I enjoyed the idea of sharing her, I just don’t like her hiding it.

This relationship is a sham, from all sides. Why you're wasting your time on her is beyond me.

It's going to be difficult to gain any trust back here for both of you. You've both messaged other people, invited someone else into the bedroom. There hasn't been clear boundaries from the start put into place. If your still seeing evidence that she isn't being faithful to you then you need to decide what's best for everyone, perhaps co parenting rather than being a couple?

You're not in a court of law. You don't need to prove anything.

Just walk away with your dignity and protect your mental health.

Seems pointless to be in a relationship where there is no trust. Do your Child a favour, put them first and end this relationship.

You don't need to prove anything. If you don't trust her just leave her. You don't need a reason. Obsessively checking for other accounts and asking her about it is controlling. You can not change her behaviour so what difference does it make to know.

Oh Ffs just knock it on the head. Your both as bad as each other. Have a relationship when you're a bit more grown up. This is classroom stuff, facebook this and facebook that! Joke

Why do you love someone who obviously has no respect or love for you?

Just leave her. You don't need proof.

She got pregnant about 6 months after meeting you ? It's hardly the love story of the year is it ? You love her but you have had a threesome? Right then.....

Why do you want her to admit it?
Will you leave her? You know she's doing it, you don't need proof in order to leave

Will you stay? Then what's the point of having proof? You know and she knows you know and you know she knows you know. 🤷‍♀️

You sound fairly well suited to each other tbh.

I know she is accessing another account as our phones are linked and I can see when she signs out of her actual Facebook account. I need help, what do I do?

I don’t understand why this would mean she has another FB account?
I thought lots of people sign out of f their account?

Honestly you don’t trust her.
I don’t think anything she can do is going to make you trust her.
You either need to start forcing yourself to trust her or end the relationship.

Sounds pretty toxic and fcuked up. Why are you bothered?

Perhaps she’s telling the truth? Perhaps there is no secret Facebook account? Are you able to accept that she might be telling the truth and her “prove it then” comment was said out of exasperation because you won’t let it go?

”I enjoyed the idea of sharing her,”
WTF? Words fail me.

”I need help, what do I do?”
You certainly do! What you do is, end the relationship and seek some therapy for your control freakish cyber-stalking jealousy issues (which all stem from your own insecurities and feeling not good enough yourself).

Considering this is only your side of this story, you’ve not really painted yourself in a very good light.

It doesn’t sound like you love her. It sounds like you love the idea of having power and control over her.

That’s how I read your post anyway.