Partner on horrible websites don’t know what to do

[Flowers94]

Basically I caught my partner on a dating site about 12 months ago and it nearly ended our relationship. I gave him a second chance and the relationship hasn’t been the easiest since this.
Yesterday I logged into a site that I knew he was on before us meeting because I looked at during the time I found the saying site initially, this site is more of a hookup site rather than dating and there’s a message from September.
This message doesn’t say what year It is from just the month which is odd, I honestly don’t know what to do or believe

I don’t know why you gave him a second chance to be honest. You’re relationship isn’t great and you spend your time looking for proof that he’s still cheating.
Get your life back and move on.

I don't think it's a horrible website

I think it's more of a horrible boyfriend

Definitely more of a horrible boyfriend.

He should of been gone the first time, the trust has gone, why wait and keep finding new evidence, it's not doing you any good living like this. Show him you are a strong woman that doesn't put up with crap, you are not his doormat

Unless you want to spend the rest of your life feeling anxious and insecure, you need to end this relationship. It doesn't have to be like this.

You can meet someone new without a history of dishonesty / cheating for you to have to combat. I promise.

And being single is much better than having your confidence eroded and an already unhealthy relationship becoming more and more toxic.

Your partner was on a dating site 12 months ago. That would be enough for me to end it.

However, you gave him a second chance. Absolutely fine if you thought you could work through it. If you're regretting that decision you can leave at any time. Just because you gave him a second chance 12 months ago, does not mean you have to just carry on and lump it now. You've worked on it for 12 months, you realise you can't let it go and actually can't forgive or trust him. Just tell him that and walk away.

Don't stay in any relationship (romantic/friendship/work) that is often not easy.

That's all you need to know about this situation, or any other, re boundaries.

Once you stop welcoming 'not easy' into your days, your days will become... well, easy.

I've been where you are, and I was 5 months pregnant, when I saw my partner on a dating site actively logging in. It only went from bad to worse, although I desperately didn't want to believe that he was really messaging and hooking up with women online.
Then I discovered he was on a Viagra subscription from pharmacy too and was popping a pill every time he said he had to stay longer at work, go to "see an old friend" etc.
He was dating online 2 days after I gave birth, when I couldn't walk from my c section. He soon started to demonstrate more and more contempt for me.
Think very carefully if benefits of being with him outweigh the drawbacks. You don't want to live your life eating up your own anger that's how good people get sick. What your words and actions don't express your body will one day

A leopard never changes it's spots.