I should leave this, right?

[downthemews]

I've very recently lost my mum (a week ago), and met a guy who had also lost his mum recently, a few days ago. There was obviously quite a strong emotional connection and at the end of the night, he took my number and we chatted a bit the following morning. I said did he fancy a coffee and he said he wasn't sure of his movements, had to go see his dad etc and he'd work it out.
He hasn't messaged again.
Obviously I am having a tough time right now, but I feel drawn to him, probably as I know he is going through similar to me. But dating while grieving is probably a disaster isn't it... and the fact he hasn't messaged back means he probably isn't into it anyway, or he's in a dark place and not really in a position to meet up anyway.
I know the answer I think... best to leave it?

Sorry to hear of your loss. I think as you messaged last, just leave it for now. You both are very newly grieving, it may take months/weeks before he feels ready to date. Maybe follow up after a month just to check in subtlety if you don't hear back.
If it's a guy you've never met before, I wouldn't put much hope into it anyway.

Leave it. He can contact you if he's interested. Sorry about your mum. Look after yourself x

Concentrate on your loss. He’s either not ready or not interested.

Or a tosser.

Whatever it is, it’s not your problem xx

Thank you all.
I knew this but it is good to hear others say it. Just channelling my grief in the wrong direction I suspect!

Well he messaged me, and was really sweet. Said he didn’t want to crowd me as he knows how intense the first week is.
We had a nice chat. I’m not in the right place currently, but I definitely felt a connection of some sort with him.

@downthemews

Thank you all. I knew this but it is good to hear others say it. Just channelling my grief in the wrong direction I suspect!

That sounds like an astute observation. Be careful with your feelings. It's better to leave behind potential relationships right now than risk getting hurt.

I'm sure you're hurting enough right now. No need to throw yourself in the dating pool, where you'd need a thick skin

So sorry to hear about your mum. I think you’re
both going through such a huge thing right now and he’s been wise to keep distance. Keep in touch with him and see if you can reconnect in a few weeks perhaps?

Watchkeys - god, no way am I going to throw myself into the dating pool.
And yes PriestessofPing, thank you... I agree. Who knows in the future but it's not the time to meet up right now. I know that I don't have it in me.