Relationships... ugh

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Anyone else want to write massive thread on how sick to death you are of your partner being an angry, mood sucking idiot but literally cannot be bothered because you are just sick of going over the same things again and again and again with them? I really want to vent right now but I can't even be bothered to write everything down because I'm that sick of it allll 😟 thing is I love him so much and I'm clinging on... just feel like deep down maybe we will never work, which is terrifying as I have an 8 month old 😖

What is there at all to love about this man?. A man whom you describe as an angry soul sucking idiot at that.

Give your head a wobble here and have a serious rethink about clinging on.

Do not stay with him for the sake of your child. That course of action will not help either your child or you.

@AttilaTheMeerkat

I wanted to vent not be told to give my head a wobble! Give yours a wobble, it's easier said than done.

Is it love though? Or is it just codependency? Or fear of being on your own? Or love of who you thought he was because of how he presented himself early in the relationship?

As pp said, there's nothing to love about someone who is angry, sulky and intent on driving you crazy.

What about self love?

The right person for you should lift you up and help you feel and become the best version of yourself.

Not only does this guy not do that, he does the opposite!

It's best to get out now before your could knows any difference. Because in a year or two it will be harder for thrm to adjust to the new normal.

But you want to raise your child in an environment where its mum is free from an angry sulky man child. Otherwise, they will grow up thinking this is normal and will go on to date similar shiitty/abusive men.

If you can't leave for you, then please leave for your child.

So you keep repeating the same thing over and over again and your partner won’t change?

Well you stay on that roundabout as long as your love lasts as by the sounds of it it will almost certainly run out!!!

[quote cttd1]@AttilaTheMeerkat

I wanted to vent not be told to give my head a wobble! Give yours a wobble, it's easier said than done.[/quote]
Well what do ypu want to be told? That it's Al OK? Just suck it up? He'll change? Because none of those things are going to help you.
I don't see what there is to love about him either.

Why not imagine a life without this and see where that takes ypu instead...

@Quitelikeit @NoNeedToWorryAboutAThing

As I said easier said than done. I already know all of this, I'm not after solution I just want to vent. I surely don't want to feel like I'm being told off? Of course you're both right but be sensitive, is It that hard?

You got angry at and with the wrong person here. Venting is all very well and good but the underlying problem here i.e him remains.

Nothing worth doing is at all easy.

You have a choice re this man, your child does not.