What do you do when you feel life is falling apart?

[sparksfly24]

I am trying to put on a brave face, I be only told one friend as I don't want to burden and feel from past experiences my friends are probably fair weather friends so not interested.

But I feel like my life is falling apart. This has happened in the last two years and I feel it's partly due to covid- it just changed me and how much I have on at the moment.
1- DH and I not getting on at all, arguing a lot and just when I thought we were back on track he verbally abused me so things are terrible. Discussing counselling.
2- Ds has issues, emotional ones so maybe adhd. He's seeing a therapist.
3- just had a bad parents evening for dd. She's not liking school, problems with friendships and lack of confidence. Don't know what to do.
4- not getting on with one of my best friends. We have drifted. Feeling like I will let the friendship slide.
5- probably about to fail one part of my masters degree which I have put hours upon hours upon hours into. Feel like a total failure. Like everyone gets it except me. It's not a surprise it has been far far harder and more academic than I thought. I think I have dyslexia as I just don't click and get things like others do. In my life I have compensated for this by working incredibly hard. But this time it seems this isn't enough.

Feel like crying but can't as I have to pick the dcs up. It's all falling apart and I am the common factor in it all. It's my fault.

Any one of those things in isolation is enough to have on your plate , so you really are having an exceptionally shitty time of it atm. You’re only as happy as your unhappiest child After all. No really helpful advice I’m afraid, but all of these things will either get better or resolve themselves , in some way, in time.
Sometimes life just really thrashes you and then puts the boot in a bit more for good measure. But you’ll get through it, honestly you will. ( in my head im stroking your back)

Its not your fault at all, life is always a balancing of good and bad times.

Sometimes you feel like you have all the plates spinning at the same time, others it feels like they just keep crashing all around you :)

It will pass, have a cup of tea, preferably with a few biscuits, sit near a window and just breathe. You can only do your best, it is always good enough x

Thanks very much. I just feel like I am failing at everything right now. I took on this masters with work too and along with COVID it just seems to have turned up world upside down. It's opened my eyes to problems in my marriage and I can't help feeling it's had a detrimental effect on the dcs.

I don't take well to failure, I like to work hard and go above and beyond so feel like a total failure failing this part of my degree. It feels like everyone else gets it. I am dyslexic and I have always compensated for it by working twice as hard as everyone else but even with that it wasn't enough. I am not good with criticism.

Hello there, I don't know if I can help you but just wanted to say, you are not alone. Last two years have been horrible for me and my family. Anything you can imagine and worse had happen to us and behind it all I had been planing to leave my husband, so this started before Covid and all. At one point I felt so overwhelmed and trapped that I started getting physically ill. I had heart palpitations, my BP was sky rocketing, I was getting dizzy spells, I had anxiety attacks.

Today, I am in a much better place. My husband left last August and most of my symptoms went away. However I did everything I could think of to help me get through this. I started therapy, taking yoga classes, meditating daily 30-45 min., going out for walks, going out with friends and family as much as I could, I was constantly on MN posting or reading other posts and I even started reading bible. Some of it or all of it helped me and I feel much more stable now.

I hope you too find something that will give you some relief. Also, keep posting it really helps to feel connected to people. Hugs.