Look at the state of me

[simplelife100]

Me and partner been together over 10 years, things haven't been great since new year and we had some words this morning where I was told "look at the state of you" and I've been called ugly and fat many times, I just don't understand why he can be so nasty yes I am over weight I have 20 month old child who doesn't sleep well I'm tired and drained and yes I should really be doing something about the weight but I'm tired and last thing I can thing to do is loose weight.

The one tip I have is to do it whilst your child is young. I left when mine had just turned 1. You do not want your kid having the long term impacts of adverse experiences.

The other tip I have is about you and how you feel about yourself.

Loneliness is a burden when they are young. But, let yourself feel it, it's important you get to the other side of it because this will make you resilient to compromise later on. Once you get through it your time on your own becomes preferable to a shit relationship.

Oh and The freedom programme.

I'm so sorry you're living with that OP, it sounds awful, I'm glad you're making a plan to leave though, it's important not only for yourself but so that your child doesn't grow up learning that's how you speak to your partner

Thank you all, I'm not gonna wait till my son in school I'm looking at some jobs and any help I may get toward my childcare as a single parent

God, just leave him as soon as you possibly can. He's disgusting.

I left and now I'm actually financially better off and the money is all mine. I don't need to justify my spending.
UC helps hugely.

@Fuckmyliferightnow that's good to know I'll hopefully will be too I just feel so trodden down it's insult after insult don't get me wrong some times I find myself retaliating and saying horrible things back so he get to feel what it's like I know that not right but im human I can only take so much and I can feel myself snapping

I've been looking at universal credit today and doing some calculation I'm getting in touch with citizen advise tomorrow to find some rights out I think within 3 months I'll be gone although that will feel like hell it's better then waiting 2 more years

Hope you're okay. Of course you're going to retaliate if he's goading you.

Totally unacceptable behaviour. You are right to plan your exit OP, and pronto.

Its worth ringing Womens Aid as they should have some good pointers re. leaving. Legal advice also could help you, if you can get some access to that.

But, yeah, totally unacceptable to call you these horrible names. Get rid.