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What does it mean if he says he wants love

19 replies

Piglet80 · 13/03/2022 20:30

If your partner said he needs love, what does that look like. Do you think he means simply more affection? Im not really great at showing my love for him, I dont really know how

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NotaCoolMum · 13/03/2022 20:31

Maybe more loving gestures, affection, kisses? Are you affectionate with him?

Nnique · 13/03/2022 20:43

How does he show his love for you? Chances are that’s how he would want to be shown love.

Roundeartheratchriatmas · 13/03/2022 20:44

Is he angling for more sex ?

Or do you not have much physical (even non sexual) contact at all ?

UserError012345 · 13/03/2022 20:45

Sex.

Scarby9 · 13/03/2022 20:45

Ask him?
'What exactly do you mean?'

Giraffapuses · 13/03/2022 20:50

You might find the book on love languages helpful (Google it). Also a good bit of advice I recievwd was that sometimes men think they just want sex when it cab mean a lot of other things. But we all know how the boys struggle to recognise and articulate their intimacy needs (beyond 'blow nob').

MartinMartinMarti · 13/03/2022 20:52

I think you need to ask him. People show (and want) love in different ways.

gamerchick · 13/03/2022 20:52

You need to ask him what he means. I'd automatically think sex if a bloke said that and it might not be.

RoyKentsChestHair · 13/03/2022 20:54

Probably sex. But if you’re not generally very ‘loving’ in other ways then maybe he means kissing, cuddling and kind words.

biggreenhouse · 13/03/2022 20:56

u need to know his love language. you feel unloved if yours isn't being met.

LittleWins · 13/03/2022 22:10

Affection including sex. Are you on your phone a lot in the evening?

GreyCarpet · 13/03/2022 22:17

I'd say he wants more affection.

Anothernick · 14/03/2022 07:53

It's often said that a man needs to have sex to feel loved, a woman needs to feel loved to have sex.

There is truth in that I think - I am a man BTW.

whenwillthemadnessend · 14/03/2022 18:55

Apparently the are 5 ways people show or want love and you have to match

Time
Affection
Sex
Gifts
Laughter

My husband gives and looks for affection more than I do

I prefer laughter and time so I have to make the effort to give affection.

movingon2022 · 14/03/2022 19:09

I apologize if I am generalizing, but from my personal experience, if a man is asking for more "loving", he means sex.

CambsAlways · 14/03/2022 20:12

Sex

AgentJohnson · 17/03/2022 05:10

It’s probably sex but don’t waste your time guessing, ask him.

Lubeyboobyalt · 17/03/2022 05:46

maybe go through the love languages thing together

Me and dp = both a little bit of everything and have no main one

quality time
gift giving
acts of service
affection

etc I can't remember all of them but give it a google

ImJustMadAboutSaffron · 17/03/2022 08:53

My ex always used the term affection when he really meant more shagging!

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