So I posted on the parent to teenagers section originally as I was starting to feel like DD growing up and becoming more independent was the only issue but it almost feels like this has brought it to the surface. Have been with DDs dad 22 years, we have an average marriage, average family life, few English holidays a year both work full time etc, not well off, far from it, but can afford to eat and clothe and so on but since DD has become more independent, has her own friends, hobbies and commitments it's made me feel like I am really not sure what DH and I have any more. I've been thinking about when she leaves home, goes to uni or whatever (she has been at a friend's for the weekend) and the thought almost fills me with dread....like what do we have if we don't have her. He isn't affectionate, literally never has been since we got together but 'expects' bedroom behaviour probably once a month, I tend to make excuses every other month so I oblige about every two months but it wouldn't bother me if we never did anything like that again....don't think that is to do with him though as it has never bothered me with anyone, just not my thing. But anyway, we have come to blows a bit this morning over his lack of doing anything at home which has led to the conversation about how unhappy I feel. He has basically said he is perfectly fine,but then he will be as all the things that make me unhappy don't affect him (all the household chores, DD growing up, usual household money worries etc) I just don't know what to do, or feel, next. Not sure what I wanted to achieve from this really but guess I just needed to get it all down somewhere