Friendship

[UserRG]

So a bit of background I’ve been friends with someone for about 6 years. Due to covid we barely saw each other and when she got covid I checked in with her regularly. I got covid a few weeks ago and heard nothing ! Anyway it was my birthday in November and I organised a birthday lunch with a few friends including her. I paid for everything we all had a lovely afternoon and I’ve heard nothing since!!! I tried phoning her 2 weeks after my birthday and heard nothing back. I’m not interested in a friendship where i hear sporadically from someone it’s just not for me. She phoned me the other day and I missed the call. I’m not planning on phoning her back I just don’t see the point. I mean in the months I’ve not heard from her I’ve started a new job, had covid, marriage troubles etc my point is surely a friend is there to share all that with? Thoughts ladies?
Btw she only lives 15 minutes away!

Has she always been like this? I think that if the friendship has changed since the pandemic began I’d cut her a bit of slack: many people are a bit depressed, emotionally struggling, running on empty; and I know when my mood lowers, I go to ground and contacting people is low on my list.

If the friendship isn’t bringing you joy then by all means just let it drop if that’s what you prefer. But if she’s usually a good friend then I think bearing in mind that things haven’t been the norm until very recently is useful.

I know she has and carried on having a busy social life during Covid that’s why I feel like the friendship has run it’s course.

This wouldn’t bother me in the slightest but if it doesn’t work for you then let the friendship slip.

Some of my friends and I can be really terrible with replying to each other, just due to reading a message and forgetting to reply.
With my closest friend, our birthdays are days of each other but we only celebrated them recently- 5 months after.
For me it wouldn’t bother me too much but I get that it can be upsetting if you feel you’re putting in the effort and it’s not being returned.
Up to you if you want to keep the friendship going. If you don’t see the point then just leave it as it is or message her and try arrange a catch up and see how it goes.