DP is driving me bananas.
We have one of those sleepless babies and so he tends to sleep on our bed and in it with us at night because I can BF him to sleep there. Recently DP has raised concerns about our (lack of a) sex life. I have explained that I am tired and feel less than confident due to having a post-pregnancy belly akin to a train wreck. He's understanding about this. I said I wanted to try to start moving DS into his cot for the first part of the night so we had some 'us time' in bed to help build my confidence. He helped me over the course of a day move all of the furniture around so we got the cot into DS's room and so on.
Last night was night number one of trying to get him down in the cot and as expected it was a struggle, with DS spending only around 20 mins in it asleep. Fine by me, it's a start, and I know it will be a while before we see an improvement. DP then tried to settle DS in our room again and DS got worked up (DS often won't settle for DP) so when I went in to take a turn DP said "I thought this whole cot thing was a bad idea". I asked him why didn't he say anything before we moved everything round and he said "Because it wouldn't have made any difference". His only response to me asking him why he bothered to mention it at all in that case, and whether he thought it was helpful, was that he "felt like saying it". He ended up shouting at me for questioning him and then I told him to go away because we were trying to get DS to sleep an an argument not helpful obviously. He came to bed eventually, now angry with me for telling him to go away, and this morning is still grotty.
We've got a clock to hang and he asked where I wanted it hung. I said which wall (I'd already told him this when he asked previously) but said "or wherever you think is best". His response was "It doesn't matter where I want it, it'll go where you want it to go anyway". When I told him I didn't care and he could choose he just told me to fuck off. Charming.
So, he's obviously feeling left out or something. I'm obviously doing something wrong. The baby thing is tough because DS only settles well for me. I'm going back to work soon while DP becomes a SAHD, DS has been a difficult baby and we've both been under a lot of strain. I find DP doesn't take a lot of initiative but then moans that I do everything. For example, he hasn't made the effort to read any of the weaning guidelines so I had to tell him we couldn't give DS some foods yet, but he still criticised my suggestion that we try BLW.
TBH he's driving me nuts - I know I'm obviously causing him some problem but he won't just talk to me about it, he's just grumpy, snipey and plain obnoxious at the moment. Perspective please?