I Think im going to end my marriage

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Its breaking my heart but i cant go on with my husband anymore.
I love him so much but all he does is make me feel like I've made the biggest mistake of my life meeting him. I'm now with 2 kids ( under 5) and he isn't much of a father or a husband. A nice guy but brings nothing to my life.
The biggest reason I haven't is because i know it will just be a shitstorm, so much to do and sort out and I generally don't know where he would go as he's from another country and hasn't got a job.

I'm so scared, I want to stay married as i love him and for him to just .. get better and I'm giving him 6 months, I've changed some things I think will help him but if in 6 months he is still this way then I know I'm walking because I've given him enough chances.

I guess I'm just posting because i have no IRL friends and don't want to go to family with RL issues in case we work it out.
I have spoken to him and some things get better but I don't think he really understands or sees the issues.

the only reason im giving 6 months is because i am having a huge life change within next few months, moving house in may and so feel i should wait til all thats done and see how my husband is then as i know he will prefer life when we have moved house (long story but he hates it here)

I'd definitely have another chat with him asap about anything that's bothering you, don't wait as resentment will build. He needs to see the issues as it's not fair on you and your feelings are important too. The only possible way to sort it and possibly move forward with him is to communicate any issues and gain some understanding between you both but ultimately do what makes you happy as life is too short. Give him an ultimatum if necessary as he should be taking your feelings on board

he isn't much of a father or a husband. A nice guy but brings nothing to my life.

Can I ask why you love him?

@Anonymous42178 Thank you thats completely true I will make sure that he changes his ways or else hes gone.

@Drawingpad
Hes really funny and the most generous guy i've ever met,
hes attractive and hygienic, Smart, Would honestly be the most perfect guy if not for a few niggling things

Those niggling things is something i cant live forever without but without those 2 things being a problem he would be amazing

Why doesn’t he work?

Having to list 'hygienic' as one of his qualities is very telling...

What are the two things that are a problem?

In what ways does he bring nothing to your life?

It can be both generous and not much of a husband and a father at the same time.

You've not given anything to go on.
What exactly is he doing wrong? You want him to change, but was he always this way- before you got married?

Why doesn't he work?

To say it's the biggest mistake of your life the niggling things seem more than niggling, OP.

We need more information, really, but just in general I'd say that if the two niggling things are:

1. he's not much of a husband; and
2. he's not much of a father, then you should probably LTB.

I would leave him now , I doubt changing where you live will make any difference.