Ex meeting up with my friend

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It's complicated. Over A year ago I split from my children's dad and financially we haven't been able to sell our home yet. He's buried his head in the sand. 7 months ago I got into a new relationship and tend to spend half the weekend with him and the odd night in the week. My best friend has been there for me to talk to and never judgemental. My little girl happens to be best friends with her son too.

My ex has been meeting with her in recent months whilst I'm at my boyfriends. This is something he never did before we split. She's married and 10000% sure there's nothing going on between them. But today after I rang the kids he told me they had been with her again today at an outdoor type thing. Its starting to make me feel my privacy Has been invaded. She's my friend and I feel like he's starting to make me look bad like I'm never with my kids. Plus I am worried they are discussing me. I just don't know if this is fair.

She doesn’t sound much like a best friend.

I wouldn't like this.

You have your free adult life they have their adult lives.

Not much you can do.

I would feel weird about the friendship between you and her now tbh, I probably wouldn't confide in her so much.

I presume they are meeting up so the kids can spend time together?

Do you do things with her family when you have the children? I wouldn't be confiding in her anymore

And why can't you get the house sold?

Yeah I don't drive so I'm more limited but I do my best to take them for walks or into town etc. Its not q suspicious thing like I think there's something going on. It's just my friend doesn't even run it by me if I'm cool with her meeting my Ex and he didn't bother mentioning it either. Just feeling unfairly pushed out.

I'm currently not working but plan to get something soon now my littlest will be starting school. Basically he can't afford to buy me out. Its been my house 5 years longer but he currently is covering. He got really depressed after we split too and begged me not to alter things at that point. Everytime I try to talk about it he says neither of us can afford it. So my hope is he will consider me taking over or buy me out in the future.

Well it's very difficult.

I assume your friend is meeting up for the benefit of the children. I am sure she would rather be doing these things with you.

Seems a shame, if the kids genuinely get on that they can only do that on your weekends, when both you and her are free.

I would speak to her and explain you feel uncomfortable.

Nobody owns a friend,and tbh I think it’s unreasonable to demand loyalty to one or other party when a relationship ends.

Your split is between you and your ex, your friend isn’t and shouldn’t feel obliged to take sides.

They're adults. He's an ex, you don't get to dictate who he sees. Get over it, people are allowed to have friends.