He's ignoring me!!

[Ivy2006]

To keep it brief, me and my boyfriend got in an argument the other day.

We had our weekly date night and unfortunately, there were 2 girls in the restaurant that my partner was caught messaging a couple years ago (since split up and gotten back together and resolved all issues). Nonetheless, I felt very overwhelmed and upset. I kept a happy face on for the meal and then cried the moment I left.

Instead of supporting/reassuring me. My partner got mad at my reaction! He told me I was being insecure, jealous, and told me to 'have something about me'. It broke my heart. I just needed some love in that moment. He told me I couldn't stay at his house so I drove home and we've not spoken since (48 hours).

Do I keep up with the no contact until he breaks?! Or do I send a message explaining why I am upset?! What do I do!! Why doesn't he care?! We've been so good since we've been back together.

He's. It very nice, you could do a lot better. Don't message him. Get some support from friends and family and move on.

That was meant to be He's not very nice

End the relationship. He's horrible. There is nothing that sounds good about him. Agree with pp that you can do much better than this.

He sounds awful.

Take him at his word "have something about you" like a fully packed weekend without him. With friends, on your own, whatever.

No don't message him how you feel, he knows that already. He wants you he needs to put in a bit of effort.

Why doesn't he care? Do you need to know why? Isn't the fact he doesn't enough to make you dump him?

You’re not good or you wouldn’t have cried
And when you raised the issue he’d have known he was at fault and it’d be difficult for you
An absolute classic to know someone’s relationship is awful is when they say
‘We’ve been so good since we got back together, until this…’

You’re not good
You were never good
You’ll never be good

Leave him, find someone who treats you better, who doesn’t message other people, who doesn’t ignore you for two days, who doesn’t insult you and who doesn’t decide you’re not allowed to come to his house when it doesn’t suit him. You don’t deserve to be treated this way.

Instead of reasuring you be berated you. What a total twat. Bin him like you should have done when you found out about the messaging other wonen.

Honestly break it off. He cheated on you, and when faced with an opportunity to show you how much he's changed since then by being supportive and reassuring he was an absolute dick.

Why would you want to be with someone who shows you so little care?

Consider it over, don't message him. you should of dumped him when you found out about the messaging, see this as a reminder of why you shouldn't be with him.

Ughh, yes I bet that felt horrible.

But. “Have something about yourself - He found your reaction tiresome and he sees you as weak. He’s not at all right, but this says so much about this relationship. It’s not working and it won’t work because the balance of power is not equal. As hard as it is, I would block number and try to move on. You’ll never be happy with this man. And you will be happy, and you will find someone who makes life so much easier and you will look back on this and wonder why you bothered. I did exactly the same.

Not sure why you've not decided to ignore him from now on, tbh.

You absolutely haven’t resolved all issues if you got ‘very overwhelmed and upset’ to the extent that you had to fake being happy and then cried the moment you left. That’s the opposite of having resolved all the issues.

Vile individual.

Get rid.

Honestly he sounds a right cruel shit.

Ltb

Don't beg. Just block him and move on. You're not over the messaging other women and it surprised.

Thanks everyone!

I've still not given in and still not heard anything!

You're ignoring him, surely?

Which would be the right thing to do of course.

You should have dumped him and left it at that when you found him messaging other women.

Surely you want better than this awful man?