I'm bored!!

[danco]

My dp works nearly 60 hours a week, he's up at 4:15am and doesn't get home until 5:30pm, I'm currently a SAHM we have an 11mo dd. I'm so appreciative of how hard he works for us but by the time he gets home he has his tea then is understandably ready for bed, I look forward to him coming home all day but most of the time he's barely in the mood for a conversation Nevermind anything else!
He also works Saturday mornings and the rest of our weekend is spent entertaining our older girls (1 each both from previous relationships both 7yo) by the time it's 5pm he's ready for bed!
I love him so much but just feel like I miss him, I find myself being annoyed with him for being tired which I know is so selfish of me.

Does anyone have any advice?

His job doesn’t sound very compatible with family life. If you went to work part time would he then cut his hours giving you all a better balance?

I had similar when my first was young, but in that my husband was on the train at 7:30, and home 9-10pm.
The only things that saved my sanity were:

1. planning my week days for things to do with the baby, and getting out EVERY day.
2. I asked my husband to book a weeks AL once a quarter after that first awful year. Year two was better

A lot of jobs aren’t compatible with home life, he is doing the best he can to support the family, a part time job would break the boredom for you, I had it for years. From his point of view if he shirks work he won’t get promoted , as well as earning less, it doesn’t matter if he is a banker or a builder, the work is there to be done.

When I had young kids I worked nights, handed the kids over at 7.30
3 days a week got back after breakfast. ( I was earning more than him too)

My husbands week sounds very similar. He is up at 515 but is awake for at least an hour earlier and home at 530. By 9pm he is nodding off and will go to bed. He also works at home every weekend. Our children have grown up now and I also work. I also miss him when I am on my own in the evening but will sometimes go to bed at the same time and other times do my own thing downstairs. The type of job he has is exhausting but he does have holidays where we spend a lot more time together. Tbh I'm counting down the next 3 years as he will be taking early retirement I cannot wait for him to not feel so tired all the time. Not much help I'm afraid but I do feel for you

I don’t agree with that at all. I know lots of families where their jobs are compatible with family life.
If you want to be a workaholic and too tired to spend time with your family then that’s fine, but that’s your choice, something you are choosing.