do you ever worry about dcs hearing you at it?

[hatwoman]

dds' room is right next to ours and as they get older I've started to wonder...not worry, as such, but wonder if I should...

DD (10) walked in on me and xh a few months ago (before he was X!) and just walked straight back out.
Later she told me that she understood mums and dads needed "private time"
Then all her friends mums started teasing me about it, so dd had obviously felt the need to share!

OOOh, have thought this myself, am torn between the standard British repsonse of complete embarassment, and the alternative response of just explaining to them that that is what created them, and that sex is not a bad or dirty thing. That doesn't mean advertising it to them but there is bound to be times when they overhear and ask what the noise was. My 2 heard us at it one sunday morning, I don't think they understood because they were still quite young, they just asked if we could stop the banging, it was really funny at the time!

Also I think that part of this country's problem with high teen pregnancy rates is that sex is only ever explained to horny confused teenagers as something you do as you get older, kids need to know, and be aware of as they are growing up, sex in a loving secure relationship

My DH and I split up and I got a new partner. DC are teenagers. Luckily they spend time with their DF so initially we had the house to ourselves and Put It To Good Use. But inevitably dp now stays over when they are here too. It is excrutiating - talk about role reversal, us giggling and being as quiet as possible so they don't overhear us. DD did say 'Mum why is that teddy bear stuffed behind the headboard? Oh!'. Don't know who blushed more. On the one hand it's healthy for them to know that sex is part of a loving relationship etc etc, and it does mean that if they are ever short of a condom they know they can find one in my bedside table, but on the other hand I don't want them to think that just because I Do It that it's ok for them to Do It.

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This is why I want a loft conversion! Tis a real problem in the summer in a campervan