Do you still remain active on dating sites whilst chatting to a match?

[Imunstoppabletoday]

Have matched with someone and we've both been back online since, get on really well and arranging to meet, but I suppose we're both still seeing what is out there.
Does anyone else remain active on their dating profiles and sites whilst chatting to a match?

Yes. I chat to different people at the same time. So many people are flakey and don't have any intention of meeting that it doesn't make sense to chat exclusively with one person.

I also limit the amount of chat before a phone call or date, I like to talk to someone / meet someone to see if I like them.

Yes because it's very common to meet up with someone and one of you decides not to see the other again. Keep chatting to people until you meet somebody where you both decide to leave OLD for each other.

Yes, as many seem to like chatting but never get as far as actual date (very frustrating). Men, especially younger ones, seem to want ‘sexting’ or flirty messages - I’ve been told these are used with our pictures for their ‘wank banks’ (apologies for that term)

Yes. It'd be like stop looking for a job when you apply for one.

@RantyAunty

Yes. It'd be like stop looking for a job when you apply for one.

Very very very true. Perfect analogy.

@RantyAunty

Yes. It'd be like stop looking for a job when you apply for one.

That's interesting..

As a bloke I don't chat to others. I feel guilty about betraying the one I'm chatting to.

If I like someone enough to meet and it's been arranged, I lose interest in talking to others. I could be in the minority though.

If you've not got a date booked then I would carry on matching and talking to others.

Fascinating to get the female perspective. Still can't help feeling it's not quite right..
I wouldn't "chat up" ( wrong phrase I know ) two or three different women IRL ..

I think if you arrange to meet, then yes I wouldn't be talking to lots of different men.

I sometimes pause my account if I'm meeting up for a date.
I'd date more than one person at a time (first or second dates). After that, and/or things getting physical, I'd only see one person.

@Shunter350

Fascinating to get the female perspective. Still can't help feeling it's not quite right.. I wouldn't "chat up" ( wrong phrase I know ) two or three different women IRL ..

Maybe that’s why you’re still single

@SunflowerTed 🤔🥴😂

I wouldn't "chat up" ( wrong phrase I know ) two or three different women IRL ..

They aren't in the same place at the same time though. It's not like flirting with two women in a pub.

Until you’ve agreed to be exclusive you can chat to as many as you like. I thought of it as the opportunity to meet people I wouldn’t have met otherwise, and then one did get serious, and here we are 7 years on 😄 Cast your net wide and have fun, because you can bet they are too.

I assumed all men did this but my now boyfriend didn't ... so I wonder if it's just that a man who isn't really that interested will keep checking the apps.

@bathsh3ba

I assumed all men did this but my now boyfriend didn't ... so I wonder if it's just that a man who isn't really that interested will keep checking the apps.

Certainly worth thinking about. If I'm interested enough in a lady to initiate a chat then I give her my complete attention. If she doesn't want it then she'll say ( if I'm lucky ) or get ghosted. Btw I don't do flirty or stuff like that until much later. I probably bore them to ghost..😬

@Shunter350

Fascinating to get the female perspective. Still can't help feeling it's not quite right.. I wouldn't "chat up" ( wrong phrase I know ) two or three different women IRL ..

So interesting you say that… When I first started OLD I preferred men to make the first move. Since I’ve plucked up the courage to send a first message, I have had 3 men reply to me that they are already talking to someone and would feel ‘disloyal’ to start conversation with someone else (or me 🙂). I thought that just showed that I judged their profile correctly, and they are genuinely gentleman - maybe not as rare as I thought then?

And 1 later came back and said the other lady hadn’t worked out. However, after a few messages/phone call we weren’t right for each other either

I definitely appreciate it when the lady makes the first move. It's a breath of fresh air tbh.

I absolutely talked to a few people at the same time. Same with dating. You talk about exclusivity later down the line. Anything before then is fair game 👌🏻
Me and DP went exclusive after a week of meeting. He said to me "how do you feel about us not seeing other people" and the rest is history... we deleted our dating apps that night at the same time.

It depends on how interested I am. If things are pretty heavy and we have a date planned then I wouldn't chat with anyone else. if it's just chatting and no meet up scheduled then I'm open to chatting with others.