Adding random girls

[BubblySnowflake]

Ive been in a relationship for some time now, and we had a night out and he addmitted he added several random girls on social media, I asked why, he said because he found them attractive I was so mad and hurt, am I overracting? I feel a little crazy and confused, and dont know what to do.

Ditch now this will never change.

Don't have anything more to do with him. What do you mean by added? Following? Or friend requests?

He was talking with them and got their adds on instgram.

Get rid now.

The question you should should asking I'd- Why did he randomly tell you he added these women? It sounds like he INTENDS to drive you crazy.

People who say and do hurtful things do not have your best interests at heart.

Would I dump him for adding random women? Maybe. But in this context - ABSOLUTELY. He is fucking with you.

Dump the sleaze. He's quite literally told you who he is.

Thank you, I feel like im going nuts, and I dont have anyone to talk to, so this is why I post just to gain some clarity on my own mind, thank you all.

Lets put it this way, healthy relationships make you feel secure, happy and bring out the best version of you. This relationship doesn't do this. Time to call it a day.

Thank you, pinkbonbon

No his eyes are wondering and he's saying he's still interested in what else there is. Dump him. What an unattractive trait.

Big red flag. No wonder you feel hurt, you don’t deserve that

For sure, I just feel sick all the time, not a good feeling, I shouldnt have to worry about who my partner is flirting with, im deserve better!

Life is too short to waste on shitty people tbh.
Or to waste with people who make you feel shitty.
Its not a you problem, its a him problem. He will be like that with everyone because he is emotionally stunted and always will be. And theres nothing you can do to make someone develop basic human empathy for others. They have it or they don't. And people who don't, don't belong anywhere near us.

You are completely right.

It's a horrible place to be in. Men who are that shallow and pathetic over a pretty woman tend to be insecure and trying to get validation and attention. Stems from some issue they haven't dealt with. I find these blokes don't change. You can't enjoy being anywhere that has other women because you know they will be eyeing up the possibilities..
Put him down back and say that's such an unattractive way to be Ben. Women think men like that are insecure. Are you insecure Ben? Why do you need to look at other women unless you would take the opportunity if you were offered? If you would then perhaps you need to be letting Me know so I can find a man who's actually focused on me and our relationship.

You don't need toxic people in your life, nobody does!

Thats the thing though, I bet if the women did approach or try something they would jump at the chance!

Yep which is why he's a waste of your time. Trust Me most women from the social media era have been here. Turned people into disrespectful dicks.

I'd be annoyed by this...major red flag. There are respectful relationship boundaries he's crossing here. Even if he's not physically done anything, it's the intent and the disrespect to you. It's normal relationship behaviour to not actively connect with new people you're attracted to...what possible reason is there to do that when you're in a good relationship. If he doesn't understand why you're bothered by this, or tries to make light of it, there's your answer. He's not on the same relationship page...dump.

Nail on the head, thank you.

Not overreacting. LTB