support needed

[krazykatzlady]

a few years ago i went through a difficult end to my marriage - OW, pregnancy, divorce.
long drawn out court procedures for custody and finances but finally agreed.
i have custody/am the RP, but due to a big difference in our salaries i have been paying child maintenance - with conditions attached.
i have now instructed my solicitors to inform him that because ex has broken the conditions, payments will stop.
i await the shit hitting the fan.....no-one in real life knows, and could do with support. when things were bad they were really bad.

Are you paying him child maintenance or is it a maintenance payment for him?

How has he broken the agreement ?

Stay strong! He knew that the child maintenance was conditional so that's his problem to deal with.

When he starts protesting, arguing and probably try to guilt you into relenting just ignore him. He's a grown man, he should be responsible for his actions and pay the consequences.

It's a monthly payment so the children wouldn't notice the difference in our lifestyles.
The money isn't being spent on the children, and he isn't having the children as agreed.

CMS assessed him and he should pay, but he doesn't by mutual agreement so that money can be spent on the children in his house..