He left me

[Pedra]

I need some words of advice really my partner and I had not been speaking the last few days I had fallen out with him over things related to his ex partner who's caused us so much hassle but that's another story I found out he had messaged her after he promised me he wouldn't anyway we have a 6 month old baby and I e slept downstairs last few nights he's not spoke to me or me him but earlier on he sent me a email while upstairs saying he didn't feel the same about me any more and didn't want to be with me he said he was trying to arrange somewhere to go . I was shocked and upset he said he didn't love me truthfully I'm heart broken he's left now a few hours ago I just got a message to say he wished he never met me .

For certain you and your daughter will be much better off without him. Your daugher is young enough that she won't remember living with him or him being a part of her life. So although this feels really sad to you, it isn't sad for her. And it's better that he does the dirty on her now than when she's 5 or 10 or 18 - it would hurt her much more then. So the sooner you get him out of your lives, the better for you both.

Make sure he at least sticks to his financial responsibilities to your daughter, and report to CMS if he doesn't.

Don't get re-embroiled in his toxic relationship with his ex. They sound as bad as each other and you were unlucky to get caught up in it. For your sake and especially DD's, get free of him.

A better life awaits!

Thank you all for replying to me it really helps as I was sitting feeling sorry for myself all night it's that thing where stupidly I keep thinkng and feeling upset that I don't and my daughter won't have that family unit . I took her a walk earlier to the shops and seen a couple with there baby silly but just made me feel so lonely now xxx

Sorry for the constant posts just feel like if I post on this helps me to contact him . I keep checking my phone to see if he's called but he's not how can someone say they love you and talk about a future lay bad side you in bed every night then just walk out your life and drop you like it never mattered 😭 I need to get a grip xxx

OP I'm sure you'll see that in a few weeks you'll be better off alone than with a man who goes back to his ex then sends you videos of them both calling you all the names. I'm so very sorry you're going through this but you have a beautiful wee girl to concentrate on. You take care and block all contact with this piece of shit x

Thanks I know your right I think with all he's done to me with her I've lost all self esteem . I will sort my head out and get strong . My daughter is definatly making me smile through this it really is his loss maybe he will see it one day or not xxx

We've all been hurt as women by some stupid man playing with our hearts and minds. Life is unfair and cruel. Someone told me once to throw all my love and energy into myself. Post Happy photos on Facebook so he can see you are happy. Cook yourself yummy meals. Walk in nature. Read a book. Have a long bath. Catch up with friends. Watch something funny.

Abuse is something I feel we were not taught about at school. He possibly treated his ex terribly too. But the fact his mind works like it is shows some massive faults within him. Firstly he should love both his babies equally. They are not toys. He should go to court to get access to his other child and continue to see your child too. But he's not is he? He's playing a massive game and that game involves children.

You are going to feel weak and angry. Consider writing emails and saving them into drafts. Make a new account for it if you need too. Save entries and remind yourself of the abusive nasty behaviour he's put you through.

Remember also that there are some amazing g people in this world and you will find your happiness. You and your little one deserve so much more than him and his carnage. X

Put your phone away in a drawer upstairs on silent and just take it out to check it once per day.

(And put your chain on your door so he can't just walk back in)

So ended up answering the phone just to hear the same cold words he doesn't love me etc I've learnt not to answer again I messaged back saying my phone's going off till i get new number I can't talk to him again and to tell him to ask a family member to email to arrange to collect his things .
Emotional rollercoaster up and down all day now in tears again I feel like a idiot for ever thinking he loved me and like a sado for crying that we are over . Xxx

@Pedra

Yeah everytime if we had a fall out he would call her and tell her and she would come up to his house with their son to spent time then she would send me pictures of them calling me all sorts of degrading things saying he was settling for me etc I was stupid to take him back but I was pregnant at the time and scared of being alone xxx

These people sound like the lowest of the low scum. Be grateful you are not entangled with him anymore.

You're not an idiot for believing him. He's the fool xxx

And more than that. This isn't a man. It's a snivelling waste of space. To walk out on the mother of his newborn baby like that. AND to say what he's said. This isn't a man. Also, the stuff about his ex not letting him see his other child. BS. Sure, she can make it harder. But any judge will grant him access if he really wants it. Fact is, he hasn't been wanting it because he's an arsehole.

Concentrate on you and your little one, and building a life for the two of you. Don't chase after this total waste of space. YOU are worth way more.