Some of you may have seen my posts before regarding the emotionally unavailable man who ended things with me in January due to having issues and not being over his divorce. He moved straight on to someone else and I went NC shortly after, I was a mess for the first few weeks but gradually started getting better.
Fast forward to this weekend I get a text out the blue from him asking how I am. I’d not blocked him previously as I felt I was able to do NC without doing so. I didn’t engage with him at that point. I also got a message on Fb from the new gf a few days later asking if I’d been with him previously, to which I replied I had but didn’t hear anything else from her.
I then get a message from him via Facebook asking if she’d messaged me and not to believe a word she said because she’s a “psycho” (i very much doubt this and I’m wondering what he’s done to upset her more like) so it transpires it’s not worked out with her either. He then started saying things like there’s a part of him that wishes it would work out with me but it’s unfair on me to keep thinking that, that he wants a serious relationship “but it’s not that straightforward” and that he gets scared.
Obviously I know this is all red flag behaviour and not to fall for it because I would get hurt again. It really knocked my self esteem that he just moved straight on to another girl in the first place even though rationally I know that’s probably more to do with him than me. I’ve now cut contact again but I feel like the whole episode has sent me several steps backward in healing because I was doing so well before. I’ve now blocked him but even then I doubted my decision to do so and I feel that’s because part of me is still emotionally connected to him and hoping on a subconscious level things will work in the future but I know rationally that’s not good for me. I’m going to go back to focusing on myself but it’s really knocked me back. Anyone else been in a similar situation and can offer a hand hold?