Question for men: when dating would you purposely not text so as to seem aloof?

[babydonthurtme]

I’m talking about early dating stage - you’ve been on 5/6 dates with a woman and slept together on 2 of those. She never initiates contact first but you always have a good time when together and the sex is good. Do you ever get the feeling of having to wait a while before texting/asking to meet again for fear of putting her off?

I'm not a man. If you're the woman, why do you never initiate contact?

My experience is that men are like women in many ways. Women make the mistake of thinking seeming unavailable and aloof is the important thing. It's not. Having an actual life, which makes you happy, is. You don't need them, you choose them.

Once you're sleeping together, if someone is playing games, it's really unlikely to go well.

Oh and if you really want men to answer, MN Relationships is not the place! Literally the whole rest of the internet has a larger proportion of male posters!

I try to get a feel early on for whether they like regular texting or are happy for it to be every few days etc.

If you always have to initiate it does put some doubt in your mind (even if you've slept together).

I think you get a feel for.whether a woman is interested as to how responsive they are and if for example they can't make a certain date or dates do they come up with an alternative or at least show some willing / interest.

I don't think you necessarily have to appear aloof but usually you fall into a pattern I would say and if that's broken you may be a bit more reserved / less frequent with communication to see what the reaction is.

@babydonthurtme

I’m talking about early dating stage - you’ve been on 5/6 dates with a woman and slept together on 2 of those. She never initiates contact first but you always have a good time when together and the sex is good. Do you ever get the feeling of having to wait a while before texting/asking to meet again for fear of putting her off?

I think I would feel that she is not really into me if she never initiates contact, so I might hold back a bit to see if she cares at all.