Not what I was expecting

[Wednesdayat]

Been dating a man recently and spent the evening at his house for the first time. Was expecting a typical bachelor pad. But the place had interior design. The pad doesn't match him at all. I'm now wondering if the place belongs to someone else and he's just living there for whatever reason. How can I find out?

dont bother. you already don trust him so move on and dont worry about trying to investigate and cyber stalk him. trust your gut instincts and walk away.

You can pay online at The Land Registry to see who owns the property, it's a couple of quid, not much.

Ask?

If you having any sort of relationship, why wouldn't you just say "this isn't how I imagined your place would be, tell me about it and how it came to be decorated so beautifully?"

@Wednesdayat

Been dating a man recently and spent the evening at his house for the first time. Was expecting a typical bachelor pad. But the place had interior design. The pad doesn't match him at all. I'm now wondering if the place belongs to someone else and he's just living there for whatever reason. How can I find out?

say "this isn't how I imagined your place would be, tell me about it and how it came to be decorated so beautifully?"

This

If you want to know but can't ask him, or you wouldn't trust his answer, then stop seeing him.

How would you ever propose to talk with him about something emotionally meaningful (ie have a relationship) if you can't broach a superficial subject like this?

Oh perhaps accept that you cannot possible know someone well enough to predict what style of decoration they have until you know them well enough to have been to their home!

@OrlandointheWilderness

Oh perhaps accept that you cannot possible know someone well enough to predict what style of decoration they have until you know them well enough to have been to their home!

Exactly.

Just ask him about it and watch for reactions/ body language.
Go with your gut.

I went with my gut at the time. I commented on a specific thing, he answered very quickly, then made a joke about it. Just seemed a bit nervous. I also saw a piece of childhood memorabilia from when he would have been a child - but it was for a girl.
Not going to pursue him. Feels off.

Oh I have to know what the childhood memorabilia that was...!
If you have a gut feeling then follow it. On the face of it he has done nothing wrong, but we aren't the ones who are there.

Is asking him out of the question?