Covid Anxiety

[cosmicbabe]

Has anyones else confidence and trust been affected by Covid?

I've been with my BF almost 3 years and we met 6 months give it take before the first lockdown. As we start going out more I've noticed I'm extremely anxious and un trusting of him on a 'lads night out' bearing in mind he's only been on 2 since the last lockdown eased. I find myself thinking he's dressed up, going out to flirt with woman and ending up in strip bars! It's making me look crazy and I'm not normally like that. I feel like I've lost my confidence as I still work from home and haven't really been out much on my own and we spend all our time together.

Anyone else feel similar or am I actually going mad!

Have you got friends that you can go out with?

Why is this because of covid?

@Shoxfordian

Why is this because of covid?

I guess because I'm thinking we've spent all our time isolated due to covid.

Well life has returned to normal now for a good long while! So you should go back to socialising and doing your normal hobbies by now. You can only use Covid/lockdowns as an excuse for so long before you actually need to do something about the impact on your life.

What is stopping you from going out to meet friends, or travel or do exercise? If it's anxiety, you can work through that by reading online resources on CBT or talking to your GP. But you absolutely cannot make your partner's life difficult just because you are struggling and won't seek help - you've identified that the issue is due to isolation anxiety. So the question is, what are you going to do about it now?

I think there may well be changes to relationships that have primarily taken place during lockdowns and restrictions, particularly for younger people, who have been forced into a cosy domesticity that would otherwise not have been a feature of their lives. I think there is a definite sense of making up for lost time in the air, and bars and clubs have quite an excitable dynamic. I know that probably isn't the reassurance you're looking for OP, and there is no reason to suspect he will cheat, but I think its true people want to catch up on having a goid time, and maybe thats what you're picking up on. If relationships are sound, rather than just forged from nothing better to do in lockdown, they will survive though. In the meantime, I would agree with the advice to get out and about yourself. You too have some fun to catch up on, and its better for you than sitting in while he is out enjoying himself.