When are you boyfriend and girlfriend?

[Shinydiscoballs1]

Following on from a previous thread I've posted a few weeks back.
So I'm seeing someone I like alot, we see each other every few days, its been 6 weeks from our first date. At what point do we become boyfriend and girlfriend? Is this a discussion that we need to have to make it official or how does it work?
We have agreed to make it exclusive a few weeks ago.
What makes being bf/gf different from seeing each other ?

Isn't exclusive exactly that?

I’d have a chat with him to say you’re not dating anyone else, is he etc then just say since you’re exclusive that makes you a couple now? I’d assume you already are but I get that it’s nice to just have it confirmed!
Guess you’ll just need to talk to him!

Just ask him.

If neither of you are seeing my others, then in I would say an you are boyfriend an DC girlfriend.

So am I right in thinking thhe label of girlfriend and boyfriend is about being exclusive to one another? I'm new to this!!

Posted at exactly the same time @caringcarer with the same thing!

I really don't understand "going out" any more!
Dd has been out on many dates with same lad for four months but they are not boyfriend/girlfriend until he asks 🧐
They're just 'talking' and seeing how things go. Very odd. or I'm old fashioned

@scryingeyes

I really don't understand "going out" any more! Dd has been out on many dates with same lad for four months but they are not boyfriend/girlfriend until he asks 🧐 They're just 'talking' and seeing how things go. Very odd. or I'm old fashioned

I agree with you I'm old school too

Is there kissing?

I'm in my 40's as is my bf and he asked me to be his gf to make it official. It was quite sweet I thought. I would just have the conversation though to be sure you are exclusive.

@scryingeyes

I really don't understand "going out" any more! Dd has been out on many dates with same lad for four months but they are not boyfriend/girlfriend until he asks 🧐 They're just 'talking' and seeing how things go. Very odd. or I'm old fashioned

My ds does the same - but in my view it's better that than jumping straight into bed with girl after girl.

@Triphazards

Is there kissing?

There's kissing and heavy petting

I mentally pegged it as from when we slept together really, but in my mind I was keeping him from date number 1! And actually he was the same - from our first date neither of us talked to or met other people, but then we just clicked. I don't understand the modern dating world!

@OrlandointheWilderness exact same with us. First date discussed the fact we would be definitely going further and by the second date had discussed the bf/gf thing. Mind you he asked me to marry him on the first date, asked me to move in with him on the second so by the third date I thought 'I think this man kinda likes me'

@Shinydiscoballs1

Following on from a previous thread I've posted a few weeks back. So I'm seeing someone I like alot, we see each other every few days, its been 6 weeks from our first date. At what point do we become boyfriend and girlfriend? Is this a discussion that we need to have to make it official or how does it work? We have agreed to make it exclusive a few weeks ago. What makes being bf/gf different from seeing each other ?

If you're exclusive then that means you're boyfriend and girlfriend. It's not like an engagement . When people say they are "seeing how it goes" I think that often means they're open to seeing other people too. But this "talking to..." thing is a bit Love Island / American dating scene. And I think (but may be wrong) that "talking to..." can also include shagging 🤷‍♀️

@StaceysmomandIhavegotitgoinon Definitely likes you! When I met my BF it felt like coming home. I'll never forget it, It wasn't the dizzying lust and fireworks (although they were there in spades too!) it was just a feeling of being safe, steady and anchored. We've only been together 9 months but he is the most decent man I've ever met and he grounds me. Love him to bits.

@OrlandointheWilderness oh we are dating months at this point too but it was a joke on the third date me asking him if he liked me lol Sure by the 4th date we had both said we were falling in love with each other and meant it. When you know you know and all that. We fit perfectly together :)

I'm seeing someone, we're exclusive but I wouldn't say he's my bf.

If you want him to be your bf then ask him?

It has been this unclear since I was a teenager decades ago. I've always been impatient with fannying around with the uncertainty so usually just said at some point when the dating etc is going well and it feels like a relationship: "you're my boyfriend, right?" or "would you say I was your girlfriend?"

I mean quite honestly life is too short to wait and see.

I don't think it's just about being exclusive. I'd have expectations of a boyfriend around making time for each other and being supportive to one another in a crisis that I might not have about someone I was seeing exclusively but wasn't my boyfriend.

DH and I had a conversation a few weeks into our relationship. He asked me how he should refer to me to his family when he was due to go home for a couple of weeks. We decided then he should call me his girlfriend.

[quote OrlandointheWilderness]@StaceysmomandIhavegotitgoinon Definitely likes you! When I met my BF it felt like coming home. I'll never forget it, It wasn't the dizzying lust and fireworks (although they were there in spades too!) it was just a feeling of being safe, steady and anchored. We've only been together 9 months but he is the most decent man I've ever met and he grounds me. Love him to bits.[/quote]
I felt something as soon as I met DH. It was like an instant feeling of him being special. It’s hard to explain it to people and I didn’t say anything to anyone at the time for fear of sounding insane so no one to verify that I felt this.

We didn’t start dating until a few months later and we’ve been happily together ever since.