Online dating photo swapping etiquette.

[Cherrytr33]

I'm wondering what do people do with photo swapping etiquette when you have kids? Have swapped numbers with someone and he's shared photos of him and his older daughter (20's) my daughter is considerably younger (under 5) and most of my photos are with her, I've changed my profile picture to a solitary selfie that I took a while ago as I wasn't entirely comfortable with someone I've just met seeing what she looks like etc. He's not asked for any photos in exchange and my boundary is telling me I don't feel comfortable swapping photos of my daughter and I together to a random Internet man, if it doesn't work out then he has photos of her.
Does anyone else free willingly share photos of them with their kids or do they exercise caution in the same way I am?

I don't OLD but If I did there is no way I would be swapping pictures of my DC.

The fact that he's shown you a picture of his daughter, grown up or not, is a red flag imo.

I'd feel the exact Same way as you. At the end of the day it's a stranger you've had a brief conversation with. Do what you feel is right for you.

Just don’t send any back. If you haven’t met there’s no need for either of you to be sharing photos at all, beyond the ones you have in your profiles. You’re strangers, you wouldn’t send photos to a stranger in any other context - plus it’s a huge over-investment when you haven’t met each other, you’ve no idea if you’ll actually get on in person and all this time wasting swapping lives blurs the boundaries.

There's no reason why you have to send him photos of her. He will meet her in good time, and if things work out. If he has any empathy and common sense, he won't ask to see them either.

Why on earth would you 😕 he’s daughter is an adult so totally different surprised you need to ask

I never show them pictures of my kids, I had a boyfriend after my marriage and he didn't see any pictures of them for at least four months into a relationship.

To protect them and also their dignity, imagine them knowing they were on a dating profile or being shown to any stranger your talking to, it's not a nice thought.

No, I didn’t and wouldn’t. Why would you think this is even a thing? My BF had no idea what my DCs looked like until he met them 6 months into our relationship. It never occurred to me to show him photos before then.

I was always ultra cautious in relation to my DCs and OLD. My dates knew I had children but I didn’t even mention their names, where they went to school or anything identifying until we were in an established relationship. I screened my dates fairly heavily so very few even got that far. And I’ve only introduced them to one BF in the past 5 years (we’re still together).

I do OLD and I’ve never asked or been asked to see photos of their/my kids. It just doesn’t happen! If it gets to the stage where they visit my house I have photos of the kids on the walls so I guess they see them then.

No of course you can’t send strangers on line pics of your little girl.

Wow, where in my original post does it say I was even thinking about sending any pictures to him. I'm quite clear on my boundaries here. I was just asking for affirmation from others. My daughter and my life with her are completely private and not something I'd open up to a random Internet man. Please, treat me with a little intelligence. I've been very clear in my original post.

You’ve literally asked in your op if it’s something you should do?! 😏 why even ask unless you were considering it!