what do you call BIL's girlfriend?

[fifibella]

BIL and his girlfriend have been together just over a year. she is much younger than him.

the xmas card and xmas presents to dd from BIL and girlfriend said from uncle and auntie. last xmas and on dd's 1st birthday they just put their first names on. i got dh to write on their xmas card and he used their first names.

my feeling is that BIL should be called uncle and his girlfriend should be referred to by her first name. this may sound petty but BIL has had lots of different girlfriends in the past and until he is married i don't think his girlfriends should be referred to as auntie.

am i being unreasonable.

My brother is referred to as Uncle and his gf by her name

I'd just call her by her names, and him 'Uncle' - if the relationship lasts then she can graduate to 'auntie'

If they have been together a year then YABU

Its hardly a one night stand is she?

I would call her 'auntie xxx'

i think the easiest thing to do is just cal both by first names

my dgs seems to mostly call my dd1 and ds by just their name tho we soimetimes call them auntie and uncle but their gf/bfs were just their name tho dd1 has had the same boyfriend for ages about 3 years

I wouldn't necessarily wait until they are married, but I would want it to be pretty serious/permenant before my child was referring to her as Aunty.

Mind you each family is different. My children refer to my sister as aunty and her husband as uncle, but call dh's sister and her partner by first name only.

my dds dont call my brother "uncle"

i think its old fashioned

Uncle and Auntie they have been together for about 3yrs.

They met about a month before he went to live and work in another country and she at university here and they are still together so as far as we are concerned they are a couple.

yes i think it is old fashioned too we tend to say it in an ironic way for some reason..also ds was only 15 when he became an uncle so it seems ott

My dcs call my BIL gf auntie but they also call a lot of unrelated grown ups auntie and uncle. If your dcs don't do this then it is reasonable to call her by her first name until engagement, especially if you think it may not last. I wouldn't put auntie or uncle on my BIL or DB xmas card from the family but I would on thankyou cards etc from the dcs.

Mine just call them both by their first names we have never bothered with the uncle and auntie tags...takes them long enough to write the names with me saying "a for annie apple, n for naughty nick" etc etc Keep it simple.

thank you for all your replies.

I am old fashioned. dcs have a 1yo uncle who they call 'baby uncle'. (he isn't even a real uncle but is a generation ablove them iykwim.)

We just say "Jack & Jane". No Uncle or Aunt.

In fact my ds who is just 3 has been calling my brother & his wife both jackandjane as a first name lately... they laugh about it!

I never called any of my uncles "Uncle Kevin" or anything, they were just plain old Kevin, who just happened to be my uncle

we just use names. Even when boyfriend became husband - the children found it too difficult to change to uncle. And actually I prefer not to use "uncle" or "aunty". on the other hand if they really want to be referred to as Aunty, then I don't think it is worth falling out over.