there is a visiting ice rink in our city, I was talking to my sister and said we (me, DH and DS's) were going to book tickets to go
she said, oh that sound's good, i wouldn't mind going to that
I then said how you book tickets, either by going in or ringing
me, DH and DC's went into town to go and couldn't get on that day, so we had to book the following day
speaking to my sister that night she said that I knew she had wanted to go, that I had "snided" off with DH and that I only do things with her if he's not around.
I apologised and said I hadn't realised she had wanted to go with me, as she hadn't said "book for me too" and had just said i wouldn't mind going, so I said I'd book again and we could all go together, she refused and said I'm only saying that as DH has gone back to work
me and DH work full time so really only get our weekends and holiday time as a family - that said I do make arrangements to do things with my sister without DH, we go swimming with our DC's, I take her children to the cinema if I'm taking mine etc
DH and I have theatre tickets later this month, arranged with my friend and her DH, my sister hasn't seen this particular play in 20 years and said she'd love to go and why didn't I book for her, DH has seen it and isn't bothered about going again so he's said my sister can go on his ticket
So I think we do make an effort to make sure we arrange things that include her and her DC's, and I don't use her
I've apologised a second time to my sister and offered again to get tickets for the skating - she's refused again - it leaves tomorrow
DH has said she needs to get over herself I'm entitled to do things just with him and the DC's and not to worry
When she has a partner she does things as a family with them that don't include us/me
I am a bit stressed atm, and this is upsetting me