Opposite Sex Friends

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Is it ok to have a platonic friendship with the opposite sex without it causing problems within a relationship?

In a previous relationship I had a male friend who I developed a good friendship with, my partner at the time was unhappy with this, even though there was nothing untoward happening and it was purely friendship, his thoughts at the time were he was just waiting for an opportunity, I assume to sleep with me but it wasn’t like that at all, I now realise this was quite controlling. Since then, I’ve never maintained a males friendship.

Do you have opposite sex friends and is your spouse comfortable with it?

Yes, of course it’s fine to have opposite sex friends. It would have been a dealbreaker if dh wasn’t ok with it, and it’s never been a problem for us.

I do.
He is gay though.
Been friends for years, he is a very good friend and I value his friendship hugely.
DH has no problem at all with it.

Some of DHs friends will happily have a brew with me if dh isn’t in. I offer biscuits, dh doesn’t apparently!
Similarly some of my friends if they pop round and I’m delayed getting home will happily have a brew with dh.
Meh, it’s kind of a non issue in our house.?

Yes, been friends for longer than I've known DH.
DH is also now really good friends with them through me. Me and friend have been on group holidays together and gone through breakups etc and not once has anything happened between us, it's not like that at all

My boyfriend and I both have opposite sex friends. Neither of us are bothered because we trust each other and these friends pre date our relationship by many years in some cases.

We each introduce the other to these friends as the opportunity arises. Neither of us has an issue with the other meeting up with these friends without the other.

I have had previous relationships where they've had opposite sex friends and prefer it because they are understanding of mine then. There have ony been a couple of occasions where I've felt a friendship was inappropriate and I've left the relationship because I'm not going to dictate who someone can be friends with but, equally, I'm not going to tie myself up in knots to be ok with something that doesn't sit right with me.

Is it ok to have a platonic friendship with the opposite sex without it causing problems within a relationship?

Of course it is. Some of my oldest friends are. It would be really weird to go through life only able to befriend the same sex.

Yet every thread on this gets loads of women who are aghast at the idea and justify abusive behaviour towards partners with examples of someone cheating with a friend.