What type of relationship is this?

[babybluesmyfave]

I'm not a big fan of labels but out of curiosity what type of relationship is this, in your opinion.

We are both divorced, late 40's, live separately, an hour away from each other, kids living with us.

We see one another eow and once or twice on the other week.
We holiday together and with our kids now and again.
We speak every day on the phone and text throughout the day.
We are each other's main source of support and kindness, care and friendship is at the core of our situation.

We enjoy a robust intimate life which, after nearly two years is as exciting as it always was, due to not living together and not seeing each other all the time.

We intend to move in together once kids have flown the nest but that's 5/6 years from now for both of us.

What would you describe this as?
A few friends have asked where' this is going?' I don't even know what ' this' is !

That's my relationship and I bloody love it. And that is exactly what I wanted.

It is perfect. It is having your cake and eating it.

We get to spend time with our kids, our work, our friends and then when we get together we focus on each other.

We will live together when my kids leave home - so about another 6 years at the earliest and we've been together for nearly 2 years too. He would like to move in together but is happy to wait.

Very similar relationship to mine and it works really well for us. We’ve only been together 7 months, but we’ve holidayed together and spent enough time together to know we’re committed and we love each other. We’re nearly 2 hours apart, both have teenagers living with us, plus he has a slightly younger child that he sees regularly. We’ve talked about maybe living together in the distant future, but certainly not until all kids are grown and living independently. I refer to him as my partner because that’s how I see him - I wouldn’t make any huge life decisions without his opinion and input and I find the term “boyfriend” doesn’t come naturally to be in my 40’s!

Some people even marry and live this way, so it's hardly a FWB situation just because you don't share a mortgage together. People who are skeptical are jealous.

This kind of relationship is known as LAT - Living Apart Together. It works really well for lots of couples as you get all the best bits of being in a relationship with all the freedom to enjoy time on your own too. Enjoy it and don't worry about people questioning the relationship - it's quite often because they are secretly jealous of your situation.

This is my exact relationship too. It is perfect as we are both so busy during the week with work and kid commitments so every weekend works out well for us. No idea what others call it but ours is definitely a committed relationship.

Hes your boyfriend.

It's good to now I'm not the only one in what can be seen as an unconventional relationship!!! I absolutely love the freedom and the calm of our home.

Then I love having that precious peaceful joyful time with him.

Can I ask if you socialise/ see mutual family/ friends during. Your weekends together or is solely couple time?

We do a bit of both but during Covid it was a lot more alone time.

He's your boyfriend or partner, depending on which term you prefer. The person who used the term "FWB" clearly hasn't a clue... The main point about a FWB is that you have no commitment and no assumption that you're not seeing others.