Please help me wrap my head around this. I know no one can provide me the answer but its really upsetting me. I had a really close friend, im talking I considered him like a big bro. I told him everything and vice versa. He would come over for the night here and there and we would go out quite abit. I told this guy very personal things about tramua and difficulties I went through because I trusted him so much and same for him.
Anyways, just before lockdown hit he randomly ghosted me. When I look back at the last conversation we had nothing mean was said or done it was simply that we was going to talk on the phone and he was out and would give me a call when he left. This is very usual for him as we would talk whilst he was on the way to/back from the gym. Except he never called...
So i messaged him thinking nothing of it and that he must of been out late. He didnt reply. I messaged again a couple days later to ask if he was okay. Nothing. Finally weeks went by and I realised for some reason I was being ignored. So I bit the bullet and sent him one long final message pouring my heart out to him saying if I had done anything to please at least tell me so I had the chance to apologise, I would respect if he didnt want to talk but I just needed to know why. It was so out of the blue.
Then I found out I was pregnant and had my first child. I was so so upset I couldnt tell him. I dont have many friends. But the few friends I do have are I am super close to and I cherish dearly. He works with kids and loves them and I know he would of loved my dc. I wish they could of met. During the past year i've had a horrible time and could of really used having him around not just to unload on but to enjoy his company.
There was only one time before when he disappeared on me like this and that was because he was with a very controlling partner who hated our friendship even though I was seeing someone and had him delete all female contacts from his life. After he left her he messaged me after a yr. There is no way he is back with her as years have passed since then and I know he was talking to someone before he ghosted me.... which makes me think that the same thing has happened but surely that is quite outlandish? They werent even official for her to dictate his friendships.
So anyways i blocked and deleted him as it really hurt to see him still there but being ignored. However recently I had to use my old phone and saw his contact and decided since it had been nearly two yrs maybe what ever the reason was that he ghosted me he got over. I sent him a very light no expectation message along the lines of "hey got my old phone back this is my new number im here if you want to chat". Again he was online but nothing.
It doesnt eat me up everyday but now and then i'll have a dream about him or see an old photo on my phone of us and it really hits hard. I guess it was the suddeness of it that I cant seem to get over. I just always wonder why. Was it me? Did i do something wrong? Surely I didnt we was have a normal conversation. It hurts because it shows clearly I only valued this friendship. He has quite a big social group unlike me.
Why do people ghost 