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OLD, bit of a strange reaction?

48 replies

Doingthiswrong · 06/03/2022 02:40

I'm hugely embarrassed! I dont message first often but saw a reasonably nice looking guy with a nice enough profile.
He'd mentioned a particular interest on his profile so I mentioned it in my message, I figured he probably gets a lot of "hi, how are you" type messages, personally I find them dull, always take more notice if someone actually writes a few lines. I promise it was a completely normal non freaky opening message.

His reply "wtf, are you pissed?"

Not sure why an innocent message would provoke that kind of response! No, I wasn't, everything was spelt right, nothing strange about it.
Wondering if he has some kind of huge chip on his shoulder and was annoyed I didn't fawn over his devastating good looks or wrote a completely fake profile not remembering what he'd said in it.
I know it isn't a huge deal but wtf?

Anyone else had a strange reaction to a message? I'm seriously thinking of just deleting my profile. I've had offers of a sugar daddy, shags, lets get you into bed nudge nudge wink wink.
The best one: "Oh, you're off to bed? Wish I was there with you" a few messages in. Oh dear, in my eyes you've just gone from enjoy chatting with you to absolute sleaze in seconds. I'm no prude but c'mon!!

OP posts:
Doingthiswrong · 07/03/2022 02:46

It really is boring, he'd put on his profile he loved dogs, I asked what he thought of a particular breed (my dog obviously).
Ok, not the most interesting message I grant you, but I can't see why mentioning that would make him think I was drunk!
And i'm sorry to disappoint you all, that's literally it Grin

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TibetanTerrah · 07/03/2022 03:02

it's such a weird reaction though, was he implying he's out of your league? what an arsehole!

LittleStarBar · 07/03/2022 03:14

I've been reading my child's 'Weird named animals' book so bare with me, but, your dog isn't an incredibly rare breed like a 'Sparkly nosed wrinkly bottom' dog, is it?

'Hi. I was just wondering what you think of Sparkly nosed wrinkly bottoms?'

GrinGrin
Sorry OP. Try not to dwell on it. OLD is absolutely FULL of strange men. Take comfort from knowing that's it's absolutely NOT you!'

Doingthiswrong · 07/03/2022 03:21

Ooh...I hadn't thought of that Tibetan!! Maybe Grin

Perhaps he just used the "things men think women like" handbook to write his profile then forgot he was supposed to like animals.

This handbook exists somewhere, i'm sure of it. In some dark underground dusty bookstore that only the biggest sleazes know of.

OP posts:
Doingthiswrong · 07/03/2022 03:23

Littlestar Grin
I WISH I had written that now!!

OP posts:
LittleStarBar · 07/03/2022 03:41

Haha, OP That could be it you know, that he actually has no interest in dogs & answered without thinking!

I once spoke to one who had a picture of a rabbit, & I said something like 'Rabbit makes a change from all the dogs & cat's' & he replied something like 'Yeah, I can't stand the little fuckers. Only good in a pie. It's my friends pet & he is a twat for having pets. I hate animals I just thought putting that pic on would get the women wet, worked with you babe didn't it'.

Ugh.

PissedOffNeighbour22 · 07/03/2022 04:36

I had someone go out of his way to let me know what he thought about certain parts of my profile and how we definitely would not be a match. I hadn't messaged him, or matched with him so his opinion was irrelevant.
I sent his message back with the spelling and grammar corrected but it did piss me off because he'd also said that he doubted anyone would put up with me.
I don't understand what he hoped to gain from contacting me. Tosser. But messages like that do sometimes make you question yourself.

knittingaddict · 07/03/2022 04:58

He's just one of a certain type of man on dating sites. He's was just hanging around waiting for a woman to message so that he could show his true misogynistic self. It's fairly common. Best ignored.

girlmom21 · 07/03/2022 06:44

I love dogs but I'd be a bit Hmm if someone randomly messaged me and asked me my opinion on a random breed to be fair Grin

JangolinaPitt · 07/03/2022 06:56

'Yeah, I can't stand the little fuckers. Only good in a pie.
Sorry that just made me howl! Grin

WouldIwasShookspeared · 07/03/2022 07:00

Maybe it's because you messaged first. There are men out there who are absolute cavemen.

knittingaddict · 07/03/2022 07:21

@girlmom21

I love dogs but I'd be a bit Hmm if someone randomly messaged me and asked me my opinion on a random breed to be fair Grin
It's online dating. Anything on your profile is fair game to start a conversation. It's literally what it's there for. It's not a random social media interaction.
Lurking9to5 · 07/03/2022 07:25

@TheProvincialLady

Reply ‘sorry yes definitely had the beer goggles on! Won’t be troubling you again’
Yeh. This. I believe your comment was about the hobby and his was like do you think im in yr league?
girlmom21 · 07/03/2022 07:31

@knittingaddict if you had "I like books" and someone messaged asking your opinion of Phillip Pullman's His Dark Materials you'd probably think they were a bit strange

ClariceQuiff · 07/03/2022 07:32

@Theunamedcat

I'm a Terry pratchett fan chap online claimed to be also I sent a message that pratchett fans would instantly recognise only to get a polite message back saying I assume you sent this to the wrong person sorry I don't chat to people who have so many inboxes they get mixed up good luck with your search.....I replied you should remove Terry pratchett from your things I like to read because clearly you haven't
Excellent reply!
MimiDaisy11 · 07/03/2022 07:40

You did nothing wrong. Don’t delete because of him. Just block him and move on. He sounds immature and unintelligent. Maybe he lacks self confidence and can’t imagine a woman writing to him and so thinks you must be drunk. Either way I’d move on.

Didimum · 07/03/2022 07:53

Even if your message was strange, there’s no need to be a dick about it. You’ve dodged a bullet.

MimiDaisy11 · 07/03/2022 08:00

I just read what you messaged. I guess a lot of people when they say they like dogs usually just mean going walks with them, playing fetch etc and I wouldn’t take it to mean they had an interest or special knowledge for the different breeds. So I can see how it could throw someone but there’s no reason for his mean response.

HarlowHenry · 07/03/2022 09:21

Did you just say “what do you think of Tibetans?” and pressed send? In which case it does sound a bit odd as most people might not make the dog connection.

If you said “I see you Iike dogs, I have a Tibetan terrier, what do you think of them?” it’s less odd. Although actually still a bit random for a first message.

Easterbunnyiswindowshopping · 07/03/2022 09:42

What sort of ddog? Could it be interpreted as something else? If it was Tibetan maybe he thought monks??

Ogwen · 07/03/2022 17:19

I don’t think OP’s dog is a Tibetan. She was replying to TibetanTerrah’s comment?

Laptopsandmouses · 07/03/2022 17:40

I think you need to say exactly what you wrote, you do seem very reticent to do so 😂

You might have written something he has totally misunderstood.

HarlowHenry · 07/03/2022 22:00

@Ogwen

I don’t think OP’s dog is a Tibetan. She was replying to TibetanTerrah’s comment?
Oh god yeah I totally misread that! Sorry!
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