Help! Relationship & mind in tatters

[Aloneandconfused]

Apologies for the throwaway account, I need some impartial advice.

Last weekend my husband was arrested and bailed pending further investigation- its a serious issue that could cause problems for myself and my children if I stay with him.

How on Earth can I shut off my emotions and move on when I had no idea what he had been getting up to.

I’m also worried as we privately rent, and I’m not currently earning enough to afford the house we rent on my own.

Will it get easier as time goes on? My head is all over the place with worry and stress right now. Wish I could hate him and have a clean break

I can’t help you, but bumping it for you 💐

Where is he now?

Victim Support, Women's Aid, social services can help families in your position.

Yes, it will eventually get easier.

Firm discipline with your mind. Every time the situation appears, block it with a pre-prepared thought eg 'No! Now I'm going to think about kittens!'

@AnneLovesGilbert he is at his parents, thankfully has to stay there until the end of this month when he is back to see if they decide to charge him

@StopStartStop thank you. Will contact the above as it’s wearing me thin with two young children to think about