Am I really boring?

[Nottiredyet]

Best friends first of all didn't believe me when I said I don't fantasise about other men during sex. They then laughed. I am really boring or is it not just me? It just never occurred to me. Only ever been with Dh.

I fantasise about women when I'm with a man!! What ever floats your boat, we are all different!!

Nope ,I don't think of other men during sex so I must be boring too

I don't think about other men when I'm having sex, I guess I'm too busy in the moment to do so. If anything I'd say it's their partners that are boring if they can't hold their attention.

I think about women too

I don't think about other men when I'm having sex

I don't think about other men when I have sex?

That seems a bit disrespectful to your partner. I don't think you're boring OP.

I don’t but my man is fit as fuck

I only think about the person I am with when I have sex. Sex is about being present with the person you are with.
I don’t think you should have sex with someone if you are not attracted to them enough to enjoy sex with THEM when you are with them.

And it’s massively disrespectful to your partner to essentially use their body as wank material for your fantasy.

Don’t think I think about anything!

I only think of my husband during sex but my user name is a clue to who I do it to during my "me time".

You’ve never had sex with anyone other that your current partner?

Gosh, what happened there rhen?

God no. I'm too busy making a shopping list in my head to be thinking about other men.

For real though whatever gets you there is all that matters. But I'd be tempted to tell your friends I'll start think about their husbands. See how funny they find it then.

I fantasise about all sorts - not people from real life though as IMO that's disrespectful.

I think about other men who like putting the bins out, picking up dog shit from the garden and shopping for what’s actually on the list. If I ever have sex again, I’ll let you know if I think of them then.

I think about my DH whilst having sex with him. I only have to look at him across the room to get the fanny gallops so why would I fantasise about anyone else? 🤣

Been together since I was 15.

Well if they say it again just say "oh you poor cows, don't your men actually do it for you". You aren't boring you are fulfilled.

I have been with DH for 33 years. I have never thought of another man when doing the deed. It would be a pretty sad relationship if I did.

@Gardeningdream

You’ve never had sex with anyone other that your current partner?

Gosh, what happened there rhen?

What's wrong with that? It's not me but I don't see anything wrong with it?

See, I’m middle camp - I don’t think about ‘another man’ but I do think about scenarios if that makes sense, so it’s not me or my DH, it’s insert whatever fantasy here so I’m the girl and he’s the guy. He doesn’t know about it but I know I can’t ‘get there’ without Doing it. It’s so weird as I find my husband so insanely attractive but 10 years on I just can’t get it up for just US doing it - anyone else?

check user name posts before answering sex questions for fucks sake

Well done mumsnetters for giving enough information to some shady cad for them to get their rocks off.

People really ought to check usernames before answering a sex question. A regular poster would have been able to post this in the sex sub forum

I'm not a regular, I'm new.

I’ve never fantasied about other men or women when having sex. I do when I’m on my own.
I have always been extremely attracted to the person I’m having sex with but Ive not experienced being in a relationship for 10+ years.

I guess couples do get bored of each other after being together so long and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it but I don’t think I could think about anything else.

Do people just have to close their eyes the entire time or is it more like daydreaming and how can you do this when you’re doing physical activity?