Ok. So I need people's opinions. I have 4 kids (13,8,6 and 2). 3 are biologically my 2nd husband's but the eldest was from a previous marriage that broke down due to domestic violence. My eldest has been brought up by new husband since 3. I have a best friend that I met whilst pregnant at university this would mean we have been besties 🤣 for 14 years now. She lives down south and I live in the Midlands so I don't get to see her much. Anyway my husband has never been that keen on her but was never openly unpleasant towards her or made visiting or visits uncomfortable.
When I was pregnant with my 4th child in 2019 I visited her and was introduced to her new partner. We got on fine. Partner seemed fine about it and ambivalent to the fact she was in a partnership. The couple and friends children from previous relationship visited and everything was ok, BF partner was quiet and not very communicative and did come across stand offish and rude. After they left DH said he thought he was rude and that it was unacceptable he didn't speak to him in his own house. I did agree it was rude but that there might have been something wrong with him (ill?)
Anyway fast forward and she's now marrying said partner. Now husband has expressed from beggining he didn't want to go and I shouldn't be going because of how her partner behaved. He also said that he caught her partner being unfair to our autistic son. Snatching toys off our son to give to his step son and point blank ignoring my son. DH said he was bullying our child and I was prioritising my friendship over my husband and children. I rang said friend up who's partner denies everything. They have now uninvited DH from wedding and as im maid of honour expect me to attend alone. My DH says of I go it's further showing him I prioritise BF over him and my kids. He says if I go then he's ending the marriage.
HELP