To go on date?-not usual type!!

[Confidenceonfloor]

I'm a bit confused if I'm attracted to a guy. I know him from a sport I do and he has asked me on a date.I'm very unsure whether to go. I've known him for 6mths and we've met in group settings 5/6 times and he asked me for drinks a couple of months ago with his friends.Anytime we meet we have such a laugh.He's intelligent,funny and very confident.But if I'm honest he's not what I normally go for looks wise(less good looking-shallow I know!)And he's 10yrs older-I'm 40, he's 50.But everytime I've seen him there's some reason I gravitate towards him,get nervous around him and I can't work out why.It's a completely different feeling that I've ever had with a guy before but I'm not sure it's a romantic feeling almost like cos he's so far removed from what I thought I'd go for.Has anyone ever experienced this.I don't want to lose him as a friend if I realize at the date I don't like him romantically.Of course he could realise the same bit I'm just confused.Anyone?

I don't understand going for a "type". If your relationships with your type haven't worked long term before, maybe you should change what you're looking for and give the date a chance.

Not being funny but you're 40 and single, clearly going for a "type" is not working out too well 😜
Give this chap a chance, you might be pleasantly surprised 😉

Well there's nothing wrong with being single at 40, unless you don't want to be that is. You might find he grows on you. I think there's probably something there if you're drawn to him so you should give him a try.

I'm single and 38 and id like someone (anyone really 😆) to ask me on a date. Go on a date. It's only a coffee, not a marriage proposal 🤷‍♀️. And if you lose him as a friend... well you'll be OK tbh. Friends are easier to find than partners. I think it's worth the gamble.

In the old days it was called animal
Magnetism
Now we call it chemistry looks have nothing to do with it
Your hormonally attracted to him

You obviously like him, so go on the date and see if there's a spark.

Maybe your mind is telling you something. Go for it. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

I'd go. You're clearly attracted to him on a deeper level than how he looks.

Some people personalities make you find them attractive when you get to know them.
Go and enjoy yourself. He might be the one. 💗

Ditch the notion of having a type and concentrate on what you feel for this particular person. I always went for small, slim, dark-haired men, and still find them incredibly sexy to look at but met 6'2" bear of a DH and was engaged within 6 months, married 27 years.

Shag him and see!

Sometimes IME awkwardness/ nervousness comes from men demonstrating attraction or attention, rather than necessarily feeling attracted towards them.

I met my hubby OLD and wasn’t going to meet him as I thought he didn’t look like my physical type! Wasn’t attracted by his photo at all! Thank god I went on the date! Madly in love 14 years later!